Attachment Disorder in Adopted Children

I am writing this - not to "burst" anyones bubble about adoption but to give you a real story about an adopted child. First a few facts - did you know that most residential treatments centers report 70% of their kids are adopted? Did you know that you have a 50/50 chance of getting it right no matter what you do? Either a totally compliant adopted child or the one that acts out are doing it for the same reason. Fear of abandonment. The compliant one looks perfect on the outside. The one that acts out looks very imperfect and wants the world to know it - it is a way of confirming why the birthmother gave them up. I adopted a girl 17 years ago - held her at birth. The birth parents refused to have an open adoption. Biggest mistake ever made. I have read over 100 books on raising children and life was wonderful with her up until age 13. My daughter started cutting. Then she moved into drugs and alcohol dependence. She has physically assaulted us. She is in an abusive, controlling relationship with a guy who can't even read. (I shoud note that at age 5 my daughter tested as having the cognitive ability of a 23 year old - so she is no dummy. It cost us over $35,000 to send her to a 10 week therapeutic treatment program - all the money we had. We lost our house. Today she was kicked out of the 11th grade and the school sytem will not allow her back in. We have spent over $12,000 in family and individual therapy and medical services (drug overdoses, etc) - not covered by insurance. I guess the point is. Looking back and looking at my daughter's life I will never recommend adoption to anyone ever again. Babies are meant to stay with their mothers - period.