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With the use of his non id info and Ameridex birth index,found my B son a few weeks ago. I wrote to him and he has responded favorably about meeting me but he would understandably like confirmation that I am indeed his BM first. He called CC as I suggested thinking that they would at least confirm the presence of a letter waiving confidentiality in his file that I placed there when he turned 18, hoped that if he told them that I had contacted him as his BM that they would go ahead and confirm. At first he was told that they would if he sent them proof of ID which he faxed immediately. Then he was told basically sorry, you need to pay for them to pull his record and to petition the court to get confirmation. GRRRRRRRRR. Anyone have any ideas? Maybe if we both sign the petition to the DC Court they will verify without having to go through CC?? Think it would do any good for me to call CC myself?? Anyone ever had success obtaining Baptismal records for D.C. St. Ann's babies. I think they are at St. Peter's or St. Patrick's in D.C. THANKS for letting me voice my frustrations :thanks: ~ Reunited adoptee, almost reunited BM
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Go the dna route, they there can be no doubt. You can do it via an online company. They will send the test kits to each individual and in some cases call the second individual to get there address. I think it will run you about $100 - $150, especially if you go via the mail versus courier. Good luck,Dickons
Thankyou both for your suggestions. I actually called the D.C. Superior Court to inquire as to whether or not we could just petition ourselves for only $80 to confirm that we really are indeed BM - BS. They said that even if granted, by law,they would still have to hand it over to CC to do the notification. THEY SUGGESTED DNA ALSO. There is even a local to us place that does the cheap, DNA tests near us that I am going to suggest. I also realized that I have our hospital records that I obtained years ago to at least confirm that I had a male baby, date and time of birth and that a birth cert. was filed under the name I gave him and that he was Baptized as. CC led me to believe that the A parents would have been given his 1st and middle name, as they often keep the 1st for a middle but I have learned that many B moms were told that and suspect it is not true ~ :thanks: ~ Almost There
Update :banana: CC had a change of heart and confirmed to us today that we are mother and son since we both made contact with CC requesting confirmation after having contact with each other. As a matter of fact, the social worker admitted that they were hoping I would call because without a court order or me contacting them okaying it, they could not verify my name to my b son as they had wanted to do or even contact me.
~Reunited adoptee and soon to be there b mom
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