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Every week Little Guy gets settled. Stops scratching, biting, hitting, spitting. Goes to bed on request, eats a good variety etc. Then each week comes visit and it all starts over again.
I'll be honest, I'm having a hard time with this. I just don't know how to help him. I've tried to talk positively about visits, but frankly he growls at me when I use the "M" or "D" word. (He's non verbal.)
Any suggestions?
Even though my little girl doesn't have autism (my son does), she does have FASD, she was acting out during visit's (like wetting her pants, getting into everything, not listening, talking back, etc). It took her a while to get used to visiting her mom and she eventually stopped acting out during and after the visits. We ended up doing a couple of visits as a group, instead of just sending her with someone that she only had negative memories of. Just stay positive about visits, and don't let him feel that you have negative thoughts about the visits.
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I know how hard it is to have to do something every week that causes them to regress and having to work back to the point your little guy was before the visit. It's very frustrating. Just keep doing what you are doing and things will hopefully get better.
Hang in there and good luck.
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Just curious, but have you tried prepping your child before the visits with sensory activities like brushing, jumping, rocking? My DS seems to do better in situations that stress him out when we make an effort to include sensory activities beforehand. Perhaps your little guy could wear a weighed vest or ankle weights to his visits?
Just a thought....
We had a little bit of a break between visits, which appears to have helped tremendously. Plus he's gotten calmer overall.
But the vest sounds like a possibility.