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i've 2 boys 8 and 12 ,been with me 4.5 yrs who have very odd behaviour;....rolling round in inappropriate places ,stareing,avoid eye contact(8yr old says it stings when he looks in peoples eyes),play with thier hands when sat among toys........8 yr old told school his favourite thing to do was play with his hands,walk through people.when not actively engaged ;8yr old spends a lot of time gurning ,and 12 yr old makes repetative noises,hides under his coatand gently head bangs.they both find supermarkets ,change in rouitine,class assembly,family gatherings very difficult and the 12yr old went completly dolally when they tried to send him to mainstream secondary with support(tried to climb out of 2nd floor window ran into a car hitting out at every one jumping about on furniture etc)the other children were all scared off him.
they do show most of the signs of attachment disorder as well but i'm concerned that the professionals arent listening to me and have only seen the 12 yr old a handful of times and the 8 yr old 1x.i feel they have been written off as just poor start to life ,but thier behaviour is such that they are both at special schools dispite normal intelligence.
friends with children with both asd and adhd have presumed the boys have the same problems and been shocked that they still have no diagnosis.
if i'm right and it's not just attachment issues,will lack of input now make a difference to thier adult life?
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Hi: I, too, have an adopted son with Asperger's Syndrome and ADHD. Asperger's was diagnosed when he was three and I realized that football was not physically possible for him. We were very lucky because I had him evaluated at the Dan Marino center, specially for ASD. The school had no choice but to accept the diagnosis. Middle school, age 12 and 13 were horrible for him. Shopping, his sister's high school band concerts, any loud noises--forget it. In eighth grade he began a center for children with special needs. His father and I explained that this was a trial and if this did not work we would try something else for him. Long story short--my son is 18 graduating on June 4, 2009 with a regular diploma from his center school as well as a technical center with a culinary arts certification. He drives, has a part time job, and has just enrolled himself at one of our local colleges. Hang in there--teen age years are really, really difficult for children with ASD. I am a teacher in a middle school and see it everyday.
katy41
once you had a diagnosis,did it change school's attitude or how you were advised to help him.at 15,does your son mind having a 'label' ordoes he find it beneficial and make it easier to access support.
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My boys age 12 and 7 were both diagnosed with RAD and PTSD when they are adopted. They have been with me 5 and 3 years respectively. Within the past 2 weeks they have both been diagnosed asperger's. My oldest has been homeschooled for the past 3 years because of the school issues. I can't afford to homeschool my 7 year old and not sure that I could - I need a break from him. I am a single parent and work full time - though I am looking at trying to change that at least temporarily. Up until now because of the wrong diagnosis the school has done everything wrong. I am afraid that they have just decided he is a bad kid and the correct diagnosis will be forgotten about. He can be aggressive when he is raging but they don't seem to know or want to figure out how to deal with him. He is seeing school as a bad place and it has been that was for the past 2 years. However, he likes school and wants to be there. I am at a loss on how to deal with some of the behaviors and rages. This is not what I was expecting when I adopted them. I had all the info on RAD, PTSD etc. I know little to nothing on Asperger's or Autism and feel like I am really failing at this.
Scandi,Though our son is much younger, we had similiar emotions when he got his ASD diagnosis. When we brought him home we were prepared for brain injury, tube feedings and developmental delays... it has taken some adjusting to get used to autism, which is his biggest issue and all consuming for him (he has severe classic autism - diagnosed four months after we brought him home), autism is something we were not prepared for or expecting.And, you are not alone, there are days when I think I really stink at being the parent of an autistic child.
Our was the opposite. We adopted a child with autism and then later found out he had the ptsd issues going on. we weren't prepared for that, but now that we know what it is we feel better. :-) Lots of autistic traits are shown by those with severe neglect as infants. Look up "institutional autism".
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