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Hi guys, I hope you can help me!
Mother's Day is rapidly approaching and I thought it would be a nice gesture to send a card to my son's amom (since I've actually met her now) and his stepmom.
Stepmom is no problemo since we bonded before we met and so on.
Mom has had problems with me being in son's life now, but seems to be doing ok with it now. Problem is that I can't just buy a card because they aren't out yet (Mother's day is not such a big deal AND at the end of the month, too late for my purposes!) and besides it would be in Swedish!
So I want to write something, any ideas?
answers ASAP appreciated since the post takes a while to get stateside!
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Are you crafty? You could create a hand-made card. Or if you know someone who makes cards, see if you can get them to do one for you. Another alternative would be to buy a blank card with a pretty mother's day-type picture or image on it (maybe something floral or just a pretty scene) and just write a simple note inside that you are thinking of her and wishing her a very happy Mother's Day.
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Q, I'm sure whatever you decide will be splendid! You're so artistic and creative -- I bet you could create a really nice handmade card.
For some reason, my son's mom felt kind of uncomfortable when I gave her a Mother's Day card the first couple years after we reunited. I eventually stopped sending them.
Egads, I just realized I forgot to mail my mom's card yet. I better remember to put it in the mailbox in the morning. :p
I get most of my cards at americangreetings.com. You can sent ecards or create your own to download and print to mail. It allows you to include pictures as part of the card. (I'm thinking a pic of A with her from your trip (if you took one!) You could say something like it was good to finally meet you. (being me I think I probably said something like "It was good to meet D's mother.") I'm glad the meeting went well; I know you were a bit anxious.
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Today is my son's birthday as well (he was born on a Monday and the following Sunday was Mother's day, can we talk about about an emotional time of year?)
I seem to be ok. I just don't know if I'm ok with everything or just not dealing with anything kwIm? I've also got a crazy busy month this month, so maybe I'm just focusing on that...
time will tell!
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If you talk to A, tell him the crazy lady from a.com said hi and Happy Birthday and he's welcome to visit anytime!The last time I saw my mother alive was on Mother's Day 1996. She was unresponsive; I played my flute for her and said my goodbyes. She died 4 days later. Needless to say Mother's Day is not a great time for me. This year, I'm going to DD's Friday and staying until Sat to see AJ's t-ball game. I'll be home in time for Sat. worship. John, of course, will have a concert on Mother's Day and won't be home.)
I had to make cards for my children to mail to their bmothers. There are so many creative programs out there.
I had to share something though. We have sent Mothers Day cards each year. My dd is now 7 and my son is 4. When I asked dd to sign the card for her bmother, she read it and said to me, "but Mom, this is a Mothers Day card, she is not my mother". I asked her if she wanted me to word it differently and she said yes, so I redid the card with Thinking about You instead of "Happy Mothers Day" and inside I found this poem on the web. She changed mother to birthmother in it. This is how it looks.
A birth mothers love is something
that no one can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
and of sacrifice and pain,
It believes beyond believing
when the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
of the rarest, brighest gems.
Instead of saying Happy Mothes Day at the end, she crossed it out and wanted me to put, "Thank you for all you have done for me".
Then she decorated the card all up, put in the photo's and sealed it with a kiss. Following her clues, I changed my son's bmothers card the same way.
In the past, she never mentioned it being a Mothers Day card, but this year, as she is grasping more and more, of her open adoption, she wanted me to change it. I honored her request and hope both birthmothers will not feel slighted. :flower:
Happy Birthday Q! enter James Bond theme here....;)I'd be thrilled to get a card on Mother's Day from my kids' firstmom as the simple acknowledgement that she sees me as a mom and not "that woman" would mean the world. So whatever you come up with, and I know it won't be "Happy Mother's Day to the insecure blind to the fact that I'm not trying to take your place";), will be from the heart and hopefully she recognizes it.:)
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