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i am almost seven months pregnant and i think that i am going to give this baby away in adoption. at first i thought i would keep it but now i realize thats not teh best thing for either of us because i dont have a place to live or a job and my car is about to be taken away.
do i just call a adoption agency?
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NO- You research your options. If after researching you still want to place your child for adoption, you research agencies and interview them to make sure they have your best interest at heart. DO NOT SIGN with any agency until you have looked at all of the paperwork and have had all of your questions answered. You have time, you do not have to make any decisions right now.
I am an adoptive parent, and the agency I used DID not have my or the bmoms best interest at heart and it has been a terrible experience for both of us, but more so for the bmom of my daughter.
Also, prior to making a decision seek counseling so that you know the decision you are making is the best one for you and your child.
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Research all of your options and get unbiased counseling that will help you explore all your options and make you aware of all your rights. If you are still leaning toward adoption, please know that you may feel differently after your child is born, and it is OK to change your mind once you see your baby. If you want to go with an agency, look into several of them and make sure you are comfortable with them and that they are not pressuring you or coercing you into placing your child. You will also need to think about whether you will want an open adoption, semi-open or closed. Understand that open and semi-open arrangements are NOT legally binding in most states, so there is always the risk that you will not get what was promised you in terms of updates/visits, etc. Whatever you do, please don't feel pressured or that you have to make a definite decision before your baby is born. Take your time with this, and if possible, have your baby and spend some time with him/her before you relinquish your rights.
There are general social service agencies that have maternity support services. I would look for one under parenting support. You need to explore all your options before making this decision. A good maternity support program will help you do this. If you need help finding one, please give me a call.
I am sorry you are having a hard time. Like Just Peachy said, adoption is permanent. You could also contact agencies or facilitators to get information and adoptive parent profiles, you can receive this without signing anything. You do not have to make any decision until after the birth of your baby. Good luck & God bless.
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I don't know your age, but there are maternity homes that will help young mothers finish their school, let them live there and provide for all of your needs and your baby's needs. Let me know if you are interested and I can put you in touch with one. I will pray for you to have peace in whatever decision you make.
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I don't know your age, but there are maternity homes that will help young mothers finish their school, let them live there and provide for all of your needs and your baby's needs. Let me know if you are interested and I can put you in touch with one. I will pray for you to have peace in whatever decision you make.
Hi,
I don't know how old you are. I was pregnant at a very young age and had to look into all of the options. I was probably in a very similiar situation as you are. If you would like to talk go ahead and email me at my husbands email jaredsullivan@bresnan.net
Good Luck!
Jen
Hi CrAzYeIgHtS~ I am volunteer with a program called project cuddle. I am in CA, not sure what state you are in. You can check out the website at [url=http://www.projectcuddle.com]Project Cuddle[/url] to see what we offer. It is not only offered in CA. They also do have rescue families that can help you with adoption, if that is what you want for your baby. Most importantly we want to help you feel comfortable with whatever your decision is and to help you during this difficult time. Please feel free to contact me, I would love to help you out. I am not in any way asking to adopt your child, i want to help you and be a friend to you during this time. I hope to hear from you.
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My father in law works at Bethel Bible Village in Chattanooga, TN. This is where I met my husband right out of college. Anyway, I asked him and he said that right now they have 2 mothers with babies and one who is expecting. It is a really neat place. There are houseparents that live in a big house with the girls. Each girl has her own big room with crib and the rest of the house is shared. The houseparents help take care of the little ones so that the girls can finish their education or work. If you are interested, I can get you in touch with my father-in-law. I hope this is okay to post.
Posting a link to a site that does facilitate adoptions is not allowed. Regardless of the fact that a place offers OTHER services too does not matter. All you need to do is be general about the information and a member can pm you for more detail.It falls under the same guidelines we have for agency discussion. Some agencies offer great counselling for expectant mothers but they still are an adoption service too. Just as we require agency discussion of any kind to be done via private message, the same goes for any business that is involved in fee based adoption services. EVEN if you are not recommending that aspect of their business.Has nothing to do with not wanting to allow members to support each other or offer suggestions at all. Posts that don't fall in line with our guidelines are deleted regardless of the forum they are in.Hope this clears it up. If not, please feel free to pm me.Thanks!Crick
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THE WEBSITE STATED THE FOLLOWING:
Are you an adoption agency?
We are not an adoption agency or facilitator. We charge nothing to the girls or to the families. We are a non-profit charity and our only goal is to help each girl or woman make a safe, legal decision. Approximately 60% of the girls and women raise their babies with our help. We often help hold their hand as they tell their parents, or find them shelter if they have been kicked out. Others may choose adoption but where her baby will go is completely up to her. She may work with an agency or choose to work privately with an attorney. We want each girl or woman to make a decision she is comfortable with.
What We Can Do For You
Find you shelter and medical assistance
Օ Help you arrive at solutions that allow you to walk away with your head held high
Help you plan a future for yourself of which you can be proud
Օ Help you get your GED
Help you find a job
What We Won't Do
Օ Send an ambulance to your door
Call social services to pick up your other kids
Օ Tell your parents (Unless you ask us to)