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A ton of bricks story
My parents drove up to see me today and this is unusual as my mother doesn't like to travel. Found out I am adopted. A CI contacted them and they felt they needed to tell me.
They never told me untill today--I grew up as an only child not knowing any of this. I'm 44 years old
I called the CI, her name is named Jill Rabanal(sp)
Don't want to reveal more of the conversation, but hopefully if my new found sisters frequent this board they can post up
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Eprice, I cannot imagine what you are going through as I have always known. I'm an adoptee from the same era. There are many adoptees from this era. There is a subforum under adult adoptees titled late discovery or something like that. It may help you to read some of the threads to know that what you are feeling is normal and also to gain insight into how they got through the initial shock. What I can tell you is that you are not alone and that you need to educate yourself on how life was back in the 60's for women who became pregnant and did not marry. There is a book called "The Girls who went Away" by Anne Fessler. It is a very good book and will answer a lot of questions that you have about birth/first families from back then and how different society was from now, I was amazed when I read it. Reunions are a roller coaster of emotions on all sides of the equation and I wish you the easiest of rides for all. You may not think of this right away but it is crucial to obtain as much medical history as you can for your doctor. Come back and let us know how you are doing. Kind regards,Dickons
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Wow, can only imagine the shock you must be in. I'm a reunited adoptee form the closed era too. I was told early on but my parents had friends who chose not to tell their son that he was adopted. One of the thoughts back then was that as soon as the papers were signed and the adoption paperwork completed - the baby was for all purposes the adoptive parents. I sometimes feel it was like a very big game of make-believe impacting someone's very life.
I agree that it is very important to get medical info. It has helped me in so many ways to be able to say when asked by a medical professional - Yes, someone in my family has that or "no" there is no history of that.
Sisters are wonderful. I was one of two (had a brother) in my adoptive family. I'm now one of nine and I finally have the sisters I always wanted.
I think that it might be good because this is such a shock to read the posts on this forum, read the book Dickons suggested. In other words - try to learn as much as possible about adoption in the "hush, hush" era. It may answer some of the questions you may have about the secretiveness of it all and many other "whys".
Take some time to just "digest" it all. Then you can decide if you wish to reunite or just want info. or just are curious or not. It's up to you and you, alone.
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Snuffie