OT- heartbroken (slightly adoption related?)

[FONT="Arial Narrow"]I realize that this possibly is the most off topic post on these forums, but I am apartment ridden this wekened with a nasty nasty cold, and I just got some pretty upsetting news, even if it seems trivial to the older and wiser here on the forums, I just needed to get this out of my system. As some of you know, I go back and forth from Italy to New York. I was raised in both Sicily and NYC. I'll be moving back to Italy July 2010 . I dated a man, Antonio, back when I was still living in Italy for about 2 years. He and had the same circle of friends.We were absolutely infatuated with eachother. When I made the decision to move back to New York , one that had been organizzed long before I met Antonio, I was heartbroken. We attempted to stay together while I moved across the Atlantic, but of course our romance fizzled out by Christmas. I've visited him 3 times since moving back to NY in late 07- and we remained very close friends, and we promised to get back together as soon as I was permanently in Italy. Well he was supposed to come to New York at the end of the month to stay with me and tour the city and visit. We planned this for MONTHS. He had his tickets, and I found myself buying the perfume he loved that I used to wear. Many of our friends had suggested to me that he was going to propose at the top of the Empire State Building, as he had told them all about it. I was absolutely SO happy. I would have moved back to Italy had he proposed- and I even began studying my old italian textbooks to prepare for the possibility that I would be returning. I found out a few days ago that he would not be coming to the USA. First he told me it was money issues, which I didn't quite believe because his father owns a portion of AGIP- the Italian oil company. Then he told me it was because his family didn't want him in the USA because of the Swine Flu. I accepted that , though I was heartbroken. Well today he finally came clean. He has been dating someone else for a month or so, and they are going to Paris together. She only had free time off of work during the next few weeks, so he sold his tickets to NYC and bought he and she roundtrip tickets to Paris, and a week in a resort in Barcellona. He told me all of this, nonchalantly, and said he was sorry but that it was better for the both of us. He told me that his family wasn't thrilled with our relationship because I wasn't "Italian enough" to be in his permanent future. My parents are native Sicilians, and I lived many years of my life in Sicily. It just so happens that I was adopted, and he was very uneasy when I confided this to him over a year ago.He NEVER brought it up again and clearly did not want to talk about it. When he told his parents about his plans to go to New York- they brought up the fact that I was not Italian and that he didn't really know anything about my "family" ( my adoptive parents and his parents have been friendly for years). "You're so great! I knew you'd understand" he said to me, and then he disconnected his webcam. I just sort of stared at the black screen for a few minutes. I'm just absolutely crushed, even though perhaps it's a little bit stupid. I'm not sure if this has anything to do with my adoption- but not Italian enough? Ugh. My adoption and the fact that they don't "know anything about my family" might not be the real reason , as the pretty brunette with whom he is going to France is reason enough- but the comment annoyed me all the same. It's just a silly story about silly young love-and maybe that little snarky comment about my adoption isn't a big deal at all- but that knowledge sure isn't making me feel any better [/FONT]