Paperwork of adoption

I have been pondering on the paperwork given to mothers (and fathers) and understand each story will be different as well as whether an agency or lawyer was part of the process but I keep going back to the thread listed below and wonder how different it is today than it was 10 years ago or even back in the closed era. 1. Did any of you receive a "Notice to Place" described in the article below by the former NJ family court judge? 2. If yes, was it explained to you that after signing that particular document that you would never know if you child was even adopted or in cases of pre-birth matches that the child went to that couple? 3. Did you sign other waivers stated in this article? Kind regards,Dickons [URL="http://forums.adoption.com/media-adoptees/359040-due-process.html"]http://forums.adoption.com/media-adoptees/359040-due-process.html[/URL] (part of the article noted above related to the queries)The formal surrender document may contain waivers of counseling, legal representation and/or further notice concerning the adoption proceeding. The adoptive parents attorney will probably give the birthparent(s) a Notice of Intention to Place which formally advises the birthparent(s) that they will receive no further notice of subsequent proceedings and will have no right to object to the adoption unless he/she files a written objection with the Surrogate of the county within 20 days, or 35 days if a nonresident. The Notice of Intention to Place process relies entirely upon the integrity of the adoptive parentsҒ attorney and offers an opportunity for fraud, if the particular attorney is so inclined and especially if the birth parent(s)or the adoptive parents reside outside of New Jersey. The Notice of Intention to Place becomes the basis of what is essentially a default judgment of adoption. The attorney represents only the adoptive parents, not the birthparent(s) or the child at a time when independent legal counsel is urgently needed