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My situation is different from what I've read here so far. My son's been in a foster home since birth(now 22 months old) due to a DCF situation. Although I've done everything I've been asked to do for him to be returned to me, I'm considering agreeing to open adoption w/the foster family he's been with.I see him often & have good relationship w/him but also have other complicated things going on in my life & know these are good people willing to keep him & am thinking it's possibly best for him to stay w/this family who he's grown very attached to. I just don't know what I should do. I feel I need to seriously consider this, but at the same time feel I won't be able to bring myself to do it. I feel like I would be giving up on him, giving up on being his mother. Anyone else in a similar situation where there's already a bond & relationship w/ their child?
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hun its a simpler to whats happened to mine wee lads mine went in foster caree d to me struggleing and i was suffering depression i did everything in my power to try and get them back. But i got told i didnt have the right support behind and my illness was always a concern for them they told me they were going for adoption for my lads. i broke down but in the end i wanted what was best for them and decided to work along side scoial services . i still feel like i have just given up on them my illness has gotten much worse since the adoption . i have an open adoption where i stay in touch with the boys but the pain is always with me. the birthdays and christmas hurts the worst . i get 2 letters a year from the boys but i still feel like i have failed them and think they will hate me. my oldest is 6 and my youngest turns. 5 monday. my boys went into foster care at 18 months and 3 years old .
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