Are there older child adult adoptees on this site?

Not sure how much help I can be. I was removed at 5, placed at 7 and adopted at almost 9. I am now 40. So I guess I am an older child adult adoptee. However, I am an atheist. Can't help with that part. But let me know if there is anything I can help you with.Samantha

Hi Samantha, Thankyou for replying. It's great to know there are other OC Adult Adoptees out there like me. That's okay that your not a Christian, I'm not looking specifically for Christians to help me, just people who have been adopted at an older age. Being a Christian as an Adult Adoptee would help but it's not necessary as I believe any kind of response is a good response and very valued at that. Could you tell me if you had a good experience of adoption? Are you still dealing with the aftermath of Adoption? If you would rather communicate by PM, then please do if you would rather share information privately rather than publicly. :wings: Yours in Faith :wings:

I did (and do) have a good experience with adoption. Depending on how you define good. I mean, I got the right parents for me. I love my family and I have no regrets. Having said that, the road was not smooth. My adoption was finalized about 15 months after placement. Five months after finalization my adoptive parents separated and eventually divorced. I lost 5 or my 6 bio siblings through the adoption process. We were poor. My father remarried as I entered highschool and we moved half way across the state. I have siblings now that are young enough to be my kids. But they are my family. And I love them. I don't think I am dealing with "aftermath" of adoption. But I do think that adoption is a life long journey. My understanding and processing of facts as changed as I have gotten older -- I don't see it the same at 7 or 15 or 30 or now 40. Details mean different things to me. And now that I am a parent (through adoption) I see my own adoption in a different light. I expect that my thoughts and feelings will continue to mutate as I get older.Samantha

snoopylou, i dont know if i can relate to your adoption situation but i thought that i would share what i do have with you. i was put into foster care at a very young age and was adopted when i was 5 just about 6. it didnt turn out good for me at all. as soon as i turned 18 i left home and never really looked back. my life took a turn for the worse, i ended up on the streets, homeless, hopeless, and addicted to drugs. i recently went through teen challange and that is where i found God. the hardest thing for me was the fact that i was adopted into Gods family. allowing Him to come into my life and bring healing and resoration. i have been a christian for the past 16 months of my life and it has been a battle. when people told me that God was my father i would shut down. i hated it and had some big problems with that. i have really been able to open myself up to him though and let him come into my life. it is still a struggle at times with the adoption part. to me adoption is not good. having gone through what i went through with my adopted family i did not want to go through that with God and i did not trust him at all. it was hard for me and like i said at some days it still is hard. thats when i remind myself of the ultimate sacrifice that he gave for me. for you. when one is adopted a paper is signed. when we are adopted into Gods family his spirit fills our spirit. it is nonrevirsible. nothing can take us away from him or his family. i am not sure what else to say. other then you are not alone and God understands where you are coming from and how you feel. i hope this helps you and i am more then willing to talk any time you need or would like. hang in there, keep praying and erad His love letter to you. i will be praying for you. tawhite

Snoopy and Okra, I am lurking around here, as I have raised five bio children and I am now trying to adopt. I want to make a difference in a child's life and even though I cannot replace a foster child's bmom, I would like to show them as much love and affection and fun in life as I can. I recently got a call from my worker for three children who are siblings; girl age 13, boy age 10 and girl age 8. I will be meeting them them this week. I would like to know what you would have liked in an adoptive parent, etc., Any ideas or thoughts, etc., would be greatly appreciated. Even though I raised five kids and they thought I was the coolest mom, times have changed obviously, and even though I know I won't be perfect, I would like to do the best I can with God's help. :)

I am 33 single and want to adopt older kids out of foster care. I know chances are once they are 18 they may go back to the family they were take from that scares me a little and also make me sad. But would love an advice anyone has on adopting older kids. And will pray you find what you are looking for

I have three older children that are placed with me through Foster Care. They are Foster to Adopt siblings. Ages are 13, 10, and 8. Two girls, one boy. Their parents are getting ready to be TPR'd (rights terminated). We just got back with them from a vacation in Chicago. They are great kids. In the beginning they did have to learn our house rules, but they are really "just kids". If you are thinking about it, it would be great. There are so many children in the system that are over age 7 and a lot of people want to adopt children that are under 7. So their chances of getting a good loving home before they are 18, is almost impossible. Good luck and keep us posted.:banana:

Well I am! i was adopted from Chiapas Mexico when I was a month old. I think our situations are different, though. I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. But what exactly do you mean? my husband and I are considering adopting within foster care. Would you have any suggestions? If there is anything inparticular I can advise you with I'd be happy to help! Take care! Melb

Snoopylou, I'm not in the same situation as you as I was not adopted, but I am a Christian. I'm wondering if the phrasing that is hanging you up with the "Adopted into God's family" is just not the best way for you personally to relate to God. Just like some people prefer to pray to Jesus, or Papa, or Daddy, or God, or Father. I personally don't view God as my adopted father, but just as my father. He is the one who created me and loves me and takes care of me. Maybe if you change the phrasing in your way of thinking about him it will help you grasp the relationship and avoid the titles and Christian jargon people like to use. I've found I just treat God like a best friend, my prayers may not sound great, but they are honest and sometimes a "Oh my God, what is with this day, help me get through it" is about as eloquent a prayer I can muster, but I think the honesty in the prayer is what cements my relationship with him. I'm sorry the current Christian's in your life aren't offering the support you need right now. I hope someone comes across your path who can. If you ever want to talk more, feel free to pm me. I check in frequently. God bless you! I'm praying for peace for you and that the hurt will start to be less painful.

Would you have any suggestions? If there is anything inparticular I can advise you with I'd be happy to help!:grouphug:

Hello. I am new to this site. I would love to chat with you. I realize I am responding to an older post but let me know if you still want to talk. I was adopted as a 7 year old and now I am 37 years old. I have issues and I am a Christian still struggling with a lot of adoption issues. Please contact me if you want to talk. Thanks!

I like to say that my friend's Mom and Dad were the original Brad and Angelina (if Brangelina lived in a small fishing town and made cabbage rolls), but in fact his mother's parents were the ones who first made blended families the norm. He had a Jewish auntie -- Anne-Marie's parents had taken in a girl from Czechoslovakia during World War II and raised her as their own. His grandparents were far from rich, but it was not strange for them to stretch their means to provide for others. And that's how it was for His parents; They didn't have money but They always ate well.:wings:

Sinner, You aren't an older child adoptee right? Kind regards,Dickons