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I am 17 years old and am 11 almost 12 weeks pregnant. I have been deeply depressed and almost to my rope's end. I can't legally have an abortion and I've always felt abortion was the coward's way anyway. Everyone who is around me doesn't understand what I'm going through. The father doesn't really care about me or the baby. I don't know if I will be able to raise this child much less if I even want to raise it. I'm not even for sure if I'll have a place to live at the time of the birth. I almost decided on suicide to end it but didn't go through with it. I need advice from anyone who is willing to give it.
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Hi Hopelessly Lost,
Welcome to the boards. I am sure you have a lot to think of at this stage, but it sounds like you have been doing a lot of thinking, which is good.
I havent been through a teen pregnancy myself, but I know of a gal who is a social worker for a local Planned Parenthood. From what she told me, they sit down and speak with women with unplanned pregnancies. They are supposed to give women all of their options and the outcomes of each. Of course, the ultimate decision is up to you but it's good to talk to someone in this difficult time youre going through. I would look in the yellow pages or online for a local Planned Parenthood in your area and see if you can make an appt. ASAP to discuss your options. Perhaps they can put you in a support group for women in your position as well so that you can bounce ideas off of others and so you dont feel youre alone.
Im sure others will respond to your post-it may take a bit of time as folks are away for the holiday and on the go but Im sure there will be some home over the weekend who can give you other, if not better ideas.
Hang in there, things will work out somehow,
Amy K, NJ
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Hi Hopelessly.Lost,
This is hard! I've been in your shoes. I know it feels overwhelming, but please please hang in there!
I really encourage you to find someone to talk to, it will help!Especially since you're feeling so depressed.
It's so hard to tell how things and attitudes of the people around you might change over the next few months.
It seems that since you're here, you're considering adoption as option? I strongly encourage you to make sure that you're educated about all of your options. I know that when I was barely 18 and pregnant, I jumped on the idea of adoption as it seemed a fantastic solution.
I wish that someone had encouraged me to find out about the possibilities of parenting. I really don't know if I would have chosen that, but I would have liked my decision to have been fully educated.
The other thing I truly wish for, was getting therapy. Therapy in getting me through the pregnancy (I also felt very very alone) and therapy afterwards to help me deal with the grief of losing a child to adoption.
At the very least, keep talking here, keep letting us know how you are doing.
:love: