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I've posted on the relative adoption side of things, but not a peep in several days. So I thought maybe someone here has some experience with this.
Dh and I had been preparing for adoption first via private domestic and more recently foster care. We are currently fostering a little girl who looks like is going home soon (boo for us, yey for her!)
Our adoption journey so far has lasted almost 2 years. Then a few days ago we found out that one of our relatives is having a baby and wants to place with us! Needless to say that we are thrilled that we will finally have a forever child of our own! But there is no question that both of us feel a little "weird" (not necessarily in a bad way, just in a way we hadn't prepared for) that this child is already related to us. Family dynamics will be different had she been adopted from another family. We have always been about openness with our child regarding their origins, and it doesn't change now.
But I'm wondering if feelings of guilt over one of us having a bio link to the child while the other doesn't are normal? I had also hoped to adopt a Latino or multiracial child (dh is Latino, our niece is biracial), yet our daughter will be CC (so am I). I feel a little ... disappointed (?!?!) at the ethnicity part, probably bc of the guilt feeling, too. What is going on?! Has anyone any idea what I'm talking about and how to get over it and just finally be happy that things are looking good for us now!?
Thank you!
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