Difficult decision

My thoughts are check and see if you have a support system in place. Ask all your reliable family and friends if they can help you parent! Other than that pray if you are a praying person and know that you are in my prayers also...

Adoption is a big decision--before you get involved with an agency (some of which may try to "push" you into a decision), I'd suggest you look for support which can help you parent, too. There is a wonderful organization called Nurturing Network ([url=http://www.nurturingnetwork.org]The Nurturing Network[/url]) that can help you find the financial/emotional/etc resources to help you parent...I'm a mom through adoption but strongly support every expectant mom's right to parent first and foremost. The people at Nurturing Network will not try to talk you into anything but will help you anyway they can. Good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers, too. Kelly

You are not giving up or abandoning your baby. You are seeking out the best life for him/her. That is true parenthood, putting the child's needs ahead of your own. What a selfless and incredibly hard choice. I wish you all the best. Christa [url=http://www.kevinandchristablog.blogspot.com]Kevin and Christa[/url]

Hey Cutes01! :flower: My name is Janey. I relinquished two children during the Closed Era. Do you have anyone you can talk to regarding all your choices? From you post, it sounds as if you are feeling alone in all of this and that it is difficult to know who to trust. I would research the options between relinquishing your child and choosing to parent yourself. There may be financial assistance out there you are unaware of; people who can help you to raise your baby if that is what you desire to do. One thing to remember is that you have some time. You don't have to make a decision tonight or tomorrow or next week. You have time. Give yourself a break for a bit - I know it's hard to do believe me. Adoption is a very permanent solution as is parenting and in the situation you find yourself, I know a person can feel very alone and confused; not knowing which path to take. That's all right. It might not seem so now but when the time comes, you'll know what's right for you and your baby. ((((( Cutes01 )))))) I know it's not much but there are a lot of us out here who understand what you're going through. Get as much information as you can so that you're better informed on whatever decision you make and know that others have been where you're at and have compassion for you - me included. Take care of yourself today. :flower:

You will get through this . I know it is so confusing and painful because I have given up a child for adoption 6 years ago. It was very hard, I really beleive adoption is one of the most selfless things a mother can ever do. I still have contact with Megan and I feel good about the desicion I made. The hardest part for me was finding the right parents. It took me until my ninth month to find them, it was well worth the wait. They are well her Mom is alot like me. If you would like to chat further drop me a line. Lots of hugs!! Tricia

Please explore all your options before you make any decision or even contact an adoption agency. There are resources out there to parent. Single parenting does not doom your child to a poverty stricken, loveless existence. Sometimes what children need most is their Mommies.

Go read blogs.. adoptee blogs and birthmother blogs and THEN decide if that is the life you want for you and your child.

hello i wanted to write and say that adopting is a very big choice and your mind and heart doesnt know what to choose or what choice to make your mind says one thing and your heart says another 4 yrs ago i got pregnant with my daughter and it got into a big mess and i had a made a very hard choice i made a appointment for abortion because my family doctor had told my mom that i wasnt even aloud to get pregnant and if i did i would die and from my mom hearing that she got all upset to the point where me and my finace had decided to get him fixed as we didnt want to go through what we did with my daughter with my mom well today i thank my oldest sister with all my heart as she sat my mom down and said to her let me take her to a clinic and see if she can have her before she makes the mistake that she is about to do my mom agreed so we went and they said i would be fine and sure enough i went through the whole 9 month's perfect no problems at all and my daughter is now 4 yrs old and means the world to me my finace and i would love to have another little one in our lives but we made a bad mistake in getting him fixed as we dont have the kind of money to get it undone and i cry everynight it breaks my heart really bad as i would love to bring home another littleone and add to the family but i was in every feeling that you are in you dont know what to do basically you have to find someone that you can trust and feel like you can get support from in any decision that you choose to make and they can help you through it thats the main thing i wish you all the best and i will also pray for you if you need a friend or someone you can talk to you can always email me day or night ill always be a shoulder for someone to lean on and ill give you the best advice i can wish you all the best :)