anyone use any other sites for support?

Thank You Sarah! :)

Exactly, glad I am not the only one with the secret trigger. LOL And who would expect the new guy to rock the boat quite yet! <singing while I'm rocking the boat> Said I'd like to know where you got the notion To rock the boat Don't rock the boat baby Rock the boat Don't tip the boat over Rock the boat Don't rock the boat baby Rock the boat.

A few things regarding “secrecy” It appears that there is some confusion about ‘secrecy’ – first, like the site listed above, we require people to adhere to a certain standard when posting. This site is not devoted to adoptees, adoptive parents or birth parents (or any one side specifically) it is devoted to “adoption” as a whole.All sides of the triad can and do participate here – thus requiring ALL sides to remain respectful and courteous to each side.Posting links to anti-adoption websites isn’t allowed. Posting links to abolitionist websites isn’t allowed.Posting links to sites where they refer to other triad members by derogatory and nasty labels isn’t allowed.This rule applies for all sides – not just adopted adults.So, what someone might find ‘supportive’ someone else might find inflammatory and rude. We, as moderators and administrators, must strike a balance – the forums aren’t segregated – they are open for everyone. This is adoption.com – we don’t support an anti-adoption or an abolish adoption position. We don’t support it and we don’t allow it to be promoted on our sites – that includes posting links to sites where they do that.I know that might upset some of you and for that I’m sorry…that’s why there are other sites out there – no one can be ‘one size fits all’ for everyone. Not us, not them, not anyone.

What's the difference between an anti and an abolitionist? Never heard the later before. pssssst Brandy, I'm still not sure if the previously posted site is ok to post or not LOL but thanks for trying. Everything keeps changing and sometimes it's hard to know what's what. Would be nice to have a list and an unbiased overview for all the sites somewhere. But that could make it too easy :)

While I agree about the secrets part, I wasn't going to post the site as I feel it may violate the terms of use here. I am grateful to have both sites as a resource and respect the rules at both. I don't have a right to post here, it's a privledge, and I'll follow the house rules, just as I would anywhere else.

There really is no difference - but sometimes, hair splitting is required - as we've learned over the years.As for the other site - I have no idea, I didn't look at it really, just their terms.

gotcha, thought I might have missed something lol I have no idea either, the mission statement looks welcoming to adoptees and ok to me, but what do I know! Opinions are different. Just trying to know what not to do here. tks

Did I break a rule by posting the site? ::sigh:: this is confusing...

Hope - I'm sure it's fine. Unless it's a site where they say "death to all aparents & bparents"...kwim?lol!:)

tks crick, that makes it even more confusing LOL You'll find that at any site with 'angry' adoptees dealing with their anger, even here sometimes lol

Well it's rather simple actualy. Google adoptee forums and you will find it near the top of your search. I found it, joined and then noticed it posted here. NO suprise it got deleted.:cowboy: The sherrif has spoken. It's not focused on anti or abloshonist platform, it's focused on adoptees and everything that we live through as adoptees. It's not censored like this is. I've been scanning deep into the older dates and haven't seen any personal attacks. The censorship is why I haven't been back here. I've been told "shut up and behave" for way too long to let some self appointed authority tell me to stifle it. You don't like the terms we use, too freakin bad. We use the term bastard in it's proper context as is spelled out in Websters and any other dictionary. Yeah, we cuss sometimes, adults tend to do that. Remember growing up and hearing "bad words" from the adults, but being told not to use those same words? Kinda funny though.... I've posted an intro and a registry post with nary a reply. I've posted in response to a couple of issues and got slammed for voicing my opinion. I came here seeking support as an adoptee beginning his search. I'm not pro adoption and won't pretend that I am. I'm also not anti adoption. More interested in reform than abolishment. But treatment like this makes me lean further in that direction. But this site is more oriented toward promoting adoption as anyone can see in the myriad of paid advertizing for adoption agencies and the like. It's your site and your right. I just don't see why in the forum "Adptee support" we need to worry about hurting the feelings of a bmom or amom. It's their chioce to read or not, to be offended or not, and to offend or not (which happens quite often without any problems because they didn't use the prescribed bad words and recieve special protection, JUST LIKE IN THE REAL WORLD). Grow some thicker skin, it's the internet, the issue is adoption, and if a few bits of non-PC terminology hurts that bad, you ain't cut out for adoption (or the search if an adoptee). I'm sure this will get deleted, but will be posted in it's entirety at "that other board"... nudge nudge, hint hint, know what I mean?, know what I mean?, say no more, say NO MORE!

Sorry folks - not going to tolerate the moderator/admin bashing - if you don't like it here, you're free to move on...Moderating decisions aren't open for discussion.Yes, there has been some editing/post deleting done...as well as other moderator action.

Sorry Brandy, Not bashing anybody or trying to discuss any decisions made, sorry you took it that way. Just trying to clarify the rules here so I can abide by them. No problem, pardon my ignorance, I won't post or discuss any other sites here just to be safe.

Beth, I wasn't posting with regards to your post - I was posting to address a post that was deleted (that directly followed yours, but is now gone) that did exactly what I said - they were bashing mods/admins for enforcing the rules they agreed to follow when they joined.None of the posts left in place are problematic - if they were, we'd remove/edit them.Your post is fine :)

LOL man, I always miss the good stuff