The Ghost Kingdom

I read this on another thread. It was taken from B.J. Lifton's website. I had never heard this , and found it interesting, and true, IMO. Quote: Ghosts Therapists often ask me to supervise their work with adopted patients. I try to make the adoptee visible to them, and to do this I call in the ghosts that accompany everyone in the triad. It is not possible to see the adoptee, the adoptive parents or the birth mother without seeing the ghosts that accompany them. * Adoptee * On one side of the adoptee is the ghost of the child he might have been had he stayed with his birth mother. * On the other side is the ghost of the child his parents might have had, or the child who died. This ghost is like a sibling rival, who the adoptee may try to compete with, or give up on without even trying. * And there is the ghost of the birth mother, from whom the adoptee has never fully disconnected, the ghost of the birth father, and the birth clan. * Birth mother * The birth mother is accompanied by the ghost of the baby she gave up * The ghost of the birth father, who is gone * The ghost of the mother she might have been * The ghost of the adoptive parents who are raising her child * Adoptive Parents * The adoptive parents are shadowed by the ghost of the perfect child they might have had * The ghost of the birth mother and birth father, whose child they are raising The Ghost Kingdom All of these ghosts fluctuate between dispensing comfort and wreaking havoc in the psyche. Too dangerous to be allowed into consciousness, they are usually banished into what I call The Ghost Kingdom. It is an awesome sphere, located in everyones psychic reality. We can think of it as an Alternate Reality. In the past, one could only enter oneҒs Ghost Kingdom through fantasy, but now in this Age of Search and Reunion, the ghosts are being morphed into real life people who inhabit the real world. Above excerpt taken from BJ Lifton - Author, Adoption Counselor, Lecturer. It's an interesting theory. I can certainly see the analogy of the ghost in my adoption experience. Even if you are an adoptee, who doesn't feel the loss and grief, mentioned in "The Primal Wound", can you see your Bio fam in this analogy? I'm not implying anything, just curious about everyone's opinion and thoughts on this. This, IMO, is not about loss/denial/ and all those things we debate, so let's try not to turn this into the same old kicking of the dead horse; well adjusted,happy, good adoptee vs maladjusted, angry, bad adoptee debate, if we can help it. lol All insights and opinions are welcome. I included the BP and AP part for comment as well. Soooo, what do you guys think?