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This is going to sound a bit weird and i'm not sure if anyone has experienced this before.
I was adopted as an infant and while growing up, I always knew I was adopted. When I was 19, my BMom searched and found me. We exchanged letters and soon after we reunited. I was so excited to have finally met her and her family that I invited her and her husband, sons(my half bros),parents and brothers to my wedding. That was 1987.
My adoptive parents thought that if it was that important to me, then they would share my Special day with them. It was surreal having both my
Moms at my wedding.
But that's as far as they got to having any further contact with each other.
My two Moms never got together again until 2004. My AMom has Alzheimer's, and she didn't know who this other woman was visiting at my house.
I had moved my Aparents into my house to care for them. ADad had diabetes and Dementia. So, I certainly had my hands full between the two of them. A decision I don't regret although it was exhausting. But I cared for my Aparents because it was my turn to return the gratitude for them taking me in and caring for me. I did that until I was no longer able to and had to put them in a Nursing Home.
A year and a half ago, my ADad passed away due to complications with the diabetes.
Now it's 2010, and my AMom's in her final stage of Alzheimer's that she is now on Hospice care. My BMom who works in a Nursing Home(not the same one) has offered to sit and be with my AMom. I don't know what to do/say. I appreciate her offer, but I think it would be too weird. The woman who gave me life wants to care and be there for the woman who raised me at the end of her life. Talking about SURREAL!?!
Has this happened to anyone? :confused:
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I started crying when I read your post :( I think its wonderful and caring that your bmom is willing to do that if it were my mom (my amom doesnt want anything to do with my bparents) I would apprieciate it but decline as my amoms wishes ect. but at the same time with the alztimers she prolly wouldnt know.... its a toughie but I def think its wonderful that she offered to do that in a way its like her ty.
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Now it's 2010, and my AMom's in her final stage of Alzheimer's that she is now on Hospice care. My BMom who works in a Nursing Home(not the same one) has offered to sit and be with my AMom. I don't know what to do/say. I appreciate her offer, but I think it would be too weird. The woman who gave me life wants to care and be there for the woman who raised me at the end of her life. Talking about SURREAL!?!
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Hi, Just wanted to let you know that my AMom passed away on Wed. Feb 17th. That would have been my ADad's birthday. So I believe that she went to heaven to join him and celebrate.
Although my BMom offered to sit with my AMom as a hospice volunteer, I just felt that it would've been a bit weird. But I did thank her for offering.
My Aparents adopted not just me but five other children. Unfortunately, we were never close growing up and it continued on into adulthood. We all seemed to have gone seperate ways. But I was always there for my parents as they were there for me.
It just infuriates me that my Aparents gave all these kids a better life and this is the "Thanks" they get. I feel that these kids "abandoned" their parents, and my parents gave them everything(sometimes too much).
Anyways, another chapter of my life has now closed. Now I don't know what's in store for my future...
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