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My two little ones have been with me for 7 months now. A relative who had kindship custody of one child was found unfit to take custody of both. The relative has had supervised weekly visits, but due to the things she is saying to the older child, 7, the social worker is requesting they stop. She will not be given custody and the visits are doing more harm than good. The only bm hasn't shown for visits or even attempted to set a visit up for 4 months now. The BD's are MIA. My question is, how long is enough enough? I know it's only been a short time, but these poor kids have been through enough and all we want is to give them a permanent home. Anyone else dealt with a similar situation
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I didn't have the same circumsances as you, but I can very much identify with wishing I had a magic ball before my son's birthparents surrendered their rights. Its just so hard...I also know what its like feeling like visits are doing more harm than good. My child was placed with me at 10 days old and didn't start visits with his birthparents until he was 6 months. At this point, they were complete strangers to him and he screamed almost the entire hour at each and every visit...I transported him and it was heartbreaking to hear him so upset.
Hang in there...
Eileen
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This was my very first post. It seems like it was years and years ago. I never found that crystal ball, but did get the best news ever yesterday.
Our adoption consent was approved, signed and sent to our attorney yesterday!!!!!!!! We should finalize by the end of June! Boy, what a journey. Thanks to all of your support, I don't think I couldn't have gotten through with my sanity in place, if I didn't have the wonderful place to come to.
Congratulations! I remember the day our consent was signed. It's a wonderful feeling to know you are so close to being a permanent legal family.
I remember writing in our intent to adopt letter to the judge that our little guy (placed with us a 6 days) had been a member of our family since the day we laid eyes on him and that we looked forward to the legal process catching up to our hearts. What a great day when that finally happened! I am happy for you that you and your family are nearly there as well!
Best,
Robin
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