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My husband and I have a 4 yr old daughter who we adopted from birth. We have had 4 other possible adoptions since we adopted her but all have fell through. One was an abortion where my heart dropped. The most recent was also a heartbreaker. The birthmom was signing her rights over to her sister because the birthmom didnt want to keep the the baby or to have to deal with anything associated with adoption. The baby was supposedly born on Feb 1st. We had been told all along that he was healthy. He supposedly died Feb 2nd, but now the sister is bringing pictures to work of her new baby boy. The third party person I have been talking to told me that others from work have told her that the sister likes to lie a lot. The one thing that really upsets me is why tell us he died?!?!? Just tell us you couldnt go through with it. We have been through enough with all the infertlilty problems on top of this. Believe me, we can handle the truth!!!!!
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I'm so sorry. I wish I had an explanation for you.
We were designated by an emom due in April. She knew us and fell all over us telling us what a wonderful family we are and how much she wanted us to raise her baby. She took me with her to prenatal appointments, gave me ultrasound pictures, etc.
Then she changed her mind and told us that she could not place her baby with us because we are not Catholic. We feel completely used. She had us floating on cloud nine for 6 weeks, then completely devastated us. I don't understand it and I desperately wish I could.
My thoughts are with you. My daughter is also 4 and was beyond exciting about having a baby sister. :(
<<<hugs>>>
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I am so sorry this happened to you also. It is so devastating! I cant stop thinking about the baby boy. I so badly want my daughter to have a sibling. She has even told me over the past few years that she wants a sister or brother. It just isnt fair because if I could have babies, she would have a sibling(probably2 or 3), but it doesnt happen like that. I hope you find peace with getting through this!!!!! I wish you luck in the future!!!!! Keep in touch if you want. Let me know how you are doing.
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Focusing on my children is just about all that gets me through the days sometimes. Our adoption fell apart on Feb 14th and it is still so painful to think about that sometimes I can hardly stand it. I spend so much time wondering what might have been.
I think I know a bit how you feel. Our emom did not decide to keep the baby. I could have lived with that. Instead she decided to take her from us and give her to another family. That is the part that is killing me. The rejection is just overwhelming.
I am wishing you peace during this very difficult time. It's hard to understand how much it hurts until you have been through it.