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I edited out the following from Iwantamom's post and posted a reminder about attacks on the triad as well as anti sentiments.
What I am trying to say is that these needy wanna be mothers are self centered with their own needs in mind. I will also say that a childs basic needs will be met. You know, the bottom of Maslows pyramid of needs. But as far as the rest of those needs, a lot of them will never be met for that child. Therefore that child is not really getting what it needs.
I edited it b/c of the "needy wanna be mothers are self centered" crap as well as the underlying anti adoption sentiment. If she wants to voice this about her own situation, she may do so.
Anyway, please watch the thread in general.
It's hard - because on the one hand you don't want to have your feelings hurt! (Obviously)
On the other, you don't want every thread to become, "Forget the original reason for this thread, my feelings are hurt and now we must talk about that OR at least never get back to the original discussion."
Taking things personally? It's hard to get away from that sometimes! Absolutely! I know that I've fallen to that many times, and when I do I really need to take a step back - sometimes literally!
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I'd just prefer certain people to shut up is all.
Especially the stupid people.
That would be 1/2 our community though so I'm SOL I think.;)
Brook, I get that way too sometimes. I think I get more defensive than hurt now though and more resigned to the fact that certain types of sentiments are more likely to piss me off than not. I try to remember to bite my tongue which is my main issue really. Truly..that is what I work on the most, NOT posting.
This morning I wanted to ask someone why they became a parent at all. They don't really like kids that much so I can't for the life of me figure out why the heck they'd have a kid and then ADOPT? Taking a child from another "more deserving" parent or rather I should say allowing the child to be in a better home? Yet how do I really know that anyway, right. And of course, some things are just better left unsaid so as to not hurt someone simply because I'm irked or nosey.
I was successful today but might not be tomorrow. lol. man.
crick
I was successful today but might not be tomorrow. lol. man.
well...at least you know your limits. ;) lol.
Does it seem to anyone else that Dickons is trying to start a fight with that if anyone asked your parents thread, or am I just reading it wrong? Six kids and a rainy day here so I may just be seeing things.
momraine
Does it seem to anyone else that Dickons is trying to start a fight with that if anyone asked your parents thread, or am I just reading it wrong? Six kids and a rainy day here so I may just be seeing things.
i thought that too....
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I don't think that was her original intent, but I do think her response jumped the gun quite a bit.
HP called her on it, so we'll see if that helps....
Prediction:
On the "if anyone asked your parents thread" Dickons is not going to take kindly to manni's contribution.
Any takers?
No way. No how. :)
Though honestly I wouldn't blame Dickens for not taking it kindly. I don't think Manni's comments were offered up out of kindness and concern. But maybe I am just an AP with a bad attitude. ;)
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thanksgivingmom
Manni is clearly trying to stir up trouble here....
I'm shocked! :arrow:
LOL, sorry couldn't resist. It's been a long day.
thanksgivingmom
Prediction:
On the "if anyone asked your parents thread" Dickons is not going to take kindly to manni's contribution.
Any takers?
i wouldn't bet against you....that can't turn out well.
Oh no. Manni is just insane. Not a bad question in theory because Dickons does like to bring up this stuff, but her tone....oh vey. Plus Dickons cannot stand her for the most part and neither can most other adoptees. I'll get pm's left and right from that group tomorrow, I guarantee it. lol
Thing is, I've talked to Dickons quite a bit and she really does just like good discussions and likes to post. Can be touchy a bit sometimes as we saw today but in general I think she's pretty cool.
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crick
Thing is, I've talked to Dickons quite a bit and she really does just like good discussions and likes to post. Can be touchy a bit sometimes as we saw today but in general I think she's pretty cool.
I have talked with her quite a bit too and really like her. She is very straightforward and defiently doesn't always worry about 'how is this going to sound?' but I do think she is a good person.