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Hi everyone, I haven't been on the site in a long time, but now that I am getting older and am legally able to search for my bfamily I came back. Here is my question: Did any of you have family holidays for days such as: the day you came home, the day the judge signed the papers, etc.? If so, what did you get to do? I didn't have any other siblings, but how did they get involved/react?I had two family holidays, which we celebrated by going out and doing something together as a family (and had cake). It always made me feel special, but it made me think that others might celebrate something similar. Any comments or stories are welcome :)
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Good point Dickons,
Now that im older i realise that i was so lucky to be adopted and not left on the 'shelf' like so many born at my time, even though i had a difficult childhood, growing up in a residential home is something i am glad i never went through. With maturity, understanding and love i know that mum and dad made the day i joined them very special. Through honesty and openess they ensured that later down the line no secrets would EVER have to be told. Over the past year there have been times that i thought i would rather be dead, but how daft is that, being the father of two beautiful children. My strength grows daily, as does the knowledge that i have gained wisdom from my pain. Last month i applied to be a single male foster carer and have been invited to interview. Life can be a wonderful thing and truely is what you make of it.
Since my adoption was finalized on christmas eve, it could have gotten mixed in there and no one noticed. But, no, we didn't celebrate my adoption with a special day or event.
Probably because my parents had bio kids, and tried hard to treat us the same, as if we were all born to them. So me having my bday and then another special day for me too, would not have been fair to the others.
Plus my adoption wasn't really brought up unless it had to be.
Now I am not sure if i would have liked it or not, but what kid doesn't like a party or a present :)
Now as an adult I think it might have been a little wierd, for me.
I can't stand the term Gotcha Day
sure i can see that it could be 'cute' in a way, but
yikes!
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Peter41
Good point Dickons,Now that im older i realise that i was so lucky to be adopted and not left on the 'shelf' like so many born at my time, even though i had a difficult childhood, growing up in a residential home is something i am glad i never went through. With maturity, understanding and love i know that mum and dad made the day i joined them very special. Through honesty and openess they ensured that later down the line no secrets would EVER have to be told. Over the past year there have been times that i thought i would rather be dead, but how daft is that, being the father of two beautiful children. My strength grows daily, as does the knowledge that i have gained wisdom from my pain. Last month i applied to be a single male foster carer and have been invited to interview. Life can be a wonderful thing and truely is what you make of it.
Mine were all foster/adopt. L, my 12 yo, at one point was set for RU. And since I'm a single mom with 3 adoption days, I just celebrate birthdays. My oldest came from an RTC; he started transitioning around his birthday in December and came home in Feb. which day would I use? I have enough with birthdays!!