millie58

Call your worker once a week for an update.

Can you get your foster file from the agency that placed you?

Do you know why her birth mom isn't in the picture? Part of her behavior is loss. Is she in therapy?

Develop a thick thick skin... and learn all you can about trauma.

a park with grills. It's outside; you can bring a volleyball, badminton set, or whatever. Good luck!

First: DO NOT FEEL BAD. You're doing the right thing for the child. He needs more help than you can give. You'd do the same if it was your biological child but for some reason, non bio parents are looked down on. If your family hasn't helped you or can't support you, they are toxic. Just try to stay in his life. Good luck.

Another point: talk therapy isn't always the best for traumatized kids. Maybe try trauma or loss therapy.

This.. On so many levels. Another factor: Kids being passed around causes them to become traumatized. A lot of behaviors are a result of that trauma. Now, there are trauma therapists who can help kids. When I got my last 2, 10 years ago, they were put In talk therapy. The problem is they were 5 and 7 and the therapy would focus on dealing with trauma on a day to day basis but they didn't get to the root of it. Another factor: what we see as "bad parenting", foster kids see as parenting. My youngest is attached to his birth mother; so much so that I'm having her move in with me. It's is right and he needs that.

You need to find out if your ex-husband's parental rights can be terminated. Him being in jail doesn't necessarily mean this can happen. If so, your daughter is free for adoption. But you need to talk to an adoption attorney.