millie58

I realize this post is old and I'm not sure what the outcome was. I just wanted to say that in MAPP class it came out that nothing in foster care/adoption is final until the judge bangs the gavel. The outcome is up to the judge, not the caseworkers.

First: try to keep the lines to bio mom open. If bio mom decides to cut contact, you'll know you tried. Tell your daughter that bio mom has mental health issues. I told my boys that their bio mom's brain was sick. Hopefully, this will cut down on the abandonment issues she may have. As she gets older, explain the different types of mental illnesses and how they affect other people. Good luck!

Wait until you're able to move into a 2 bedroom apartment. Caseworkers don't want to place a baby with you and then something happens and you're not able to move and the baby has to be moved.

Some people have a "need" to be with their bio family... Also, there are bio kids who don't talk to bio parents. I think it stands out more in adoption... but people need to realize that adoption is based on loss.

Reach out, telling her of your DNA match. See how that goes.Good luck!

What are the ages? Honestly, I would either put a stop to the interaction or monitor them. I had a bm try to undermine me. It didn't work but my trust in her is gone. Some birth mothers are jealous that other people are raising their kids.

Totally what the first poster. I also want to add that because no criminal history is found doesn't mean there isn't any. With upper middle and rich families: crimes are easier to hide. They have the resources. But I wouldn't hold fast to the CW's word. I was told in MAPP class that it's not over until the judge hits the desk with the gavel. Any thing could happen before an adoption.

I am so sorry you all were abused. That's horrible to do that to a child.