millie58

OK. First, since he's in foster care, odds are he has some type of anxiety. If there's a family history, his may be on a larger scale. Stimulants are not helping. at all. What are the other meds for? Fight and see if you can put him on a non-stimulant anti-anxiety med. I had to beg a "child professional" 3 times for my kid. The change was immediate. Liquid vitamin B works but the taste is horrible. Also, try essential oils for relaxation. Good luck!

Can you appeal?

They will request a DNA test. If he is the father and he wants to parent, he could get custody. Right now, they'll probably extend the date for reunification.

What medicine is he on and what is his diagnosis? He probably has anxiety. A stimulant will not help him, it will make him worse. Anxiety presents like aggression in some kids. Try a non-stimulant anti-anxiety med. Celexa is one. Liquid vitamin B also helps anxiety. Good luck!

I would say everything is in your favor. However, you need to document how the child acts an what she says when she comes back from visits. That's not helping a child facing enormous loss and trauma.

These are all great answers!! I just want to add that kids MAY tease/mock him about being adopted, saying his parents didn't want him. Impress upon him that his bm loved him enough to give him up. Also, those not in the adoption community can be ignorant with talking to adoptees: the use of the phrase "real parents"...

My 4 boys are adopted: they are 2 sets of bio brothers. But mine were fostered first so that may have made a difference. I thing I notice is the age difference. My bio sister and I are ten years apart and weren't close as kids. We're nominally close now. Another factor is their nationality and the fact that there's a bio group. That's sort of a plus for your parents. It probably would have helped if one was white but you never know how things will turn out. I know bio siblings who don't speak so having a bio sib isn't a guarantee of anything. Adoption is based on loss The adoptees lost their culture and extended families. People don't talk about that. Maybe if you try to empathize with them, you'll feel better.

With adoption, you'll get a birth certificate, stating you as the parent. It basically nullifies your friend as the mother. With Guardianship, your friend can come back at any time and take the child back, at any time. There is no permanency.

If he has his life together, chances are the child will go with him. I know this isn't what you want to hear but it's possible he had no knowledge that the child existed. When I took MAPP classes years ago, the worker said nothing is permanent until you're in the judge's chambers and he/she bangs the gavel.. This is so true.