millie58

First: You bio family members need to stop acting like a birth mom or dad won't try to make contact if the child is with a family member. It can and does happen. Second: You need to get to court as soon as the child is taken so the child isn't moved or have to form bonds with different people. foster parents are stepping UP to do what bio parents couldn't or wouldn't do. And for the poster who posted about dollars: The only way to "make money" is to do absolutely NOTHING with a foster child. and with case worker visits, that's sort of impossible in this day and age.

First: Don't assume things work out logically. While you and I would TPR, it may not happen. Second: during MAPP class, it was stated; do not count on anything until the judge bangs his/her gavel. I've been on both sides of this. Keeping my fingers crossed it works out for the kiddies.

Have you tried a DNA test?

I heard about a case a few years ago where a bio father wanted his child and not the child's half sib. CPS/the courts denied him and kept the siblings together. Do your kids have a strong bond? Since he has admitted abuse, you and your wife could tell your caseworker that you'll grant him supervised visitation... this will let them heal and keep them together. Good luck~

Do you have any idea why you can't bond? It's possible your wife is doing research and knows what to expect. You could do that also. Remember: a foster child has been taken from the one place he/she was safe (for whatever reason). Said child has to learn about new people, places and rules along with wondering about his/her bio parent(s). Maybe you could do family counseling to help you. Good luck!

Honestly: when I did MAPP classes, the instructor said not to count on anything until the judge banged his/her gavel. That being said, the adoptive mom of my sons' siblings planned to move from NY to GA. The county expedited their adoptions. CIs bio family a definite?

Not sure if you read, but an Arizone politician was arrested for facilitating illegal adoptions from the Marshall Islands.

What are the safety concerns? Can you document them? Is the one sibling bonded to the other 2?

Are you looking for straight adoption? I fost/adopted as a single parent. I went through a government agency, not a private one. I just had to show I had support.