millie58

This will be tough as there's no way of knowing if the birth family will stay in your child's life. Honestly, I have contact for the adults and we see them when they have get-togethers. It wasn't east on my youngest as he felt his great aunt was mean to him. But time helped him heal and he got to a place where he could see them and give everyone a kiss and hug. Let your child tell you what happened; and take it from there.

Not seeing how old your kids are.. but if you can, you keep her contact info. Your kids may want to see her or they may not. My oldest saw his bio mom for a while and now doesn't talk to her. My youngest (different bios) has a need to see his bio mom. You keep the info; if the kids ask you can give it to them.

The problem with foster kids and the military is the uncertainty. If you know you're moving in 2 years but get a foster kid that gets attached, the foster kid will be hurt more when you move. That's not fair to any foster child. They have to be available for visits unless bio parents rights have been TPR'd. Think about respite (if your state allows it) first so you can see how it is.

Where are you that a convicted child molester can be a foster parent? In NY, they do background checks..

First: change your way of thinking. Foster kids need love, structure and things that non-foster kids have. Example: grounding as a punishment. A bio kid would be grounded and sent to his/her room. Big no-no for foster kids. They need time-ins. Keep them with you as much as possible. Structure as much as possible. Do things that become traditions. We would drive around looking at houses on Christmas Eve, then have hot chocolate. Keep in mind, that a foster child will have anxiety, have gone through trauma and will have experienced some type of abuse/neglect. Also: because of the trauma, foster kids brains "freeze". Their emotional age may not be their physical age. You have to parent the stage, not the age. Good luck!!

lolol Family! There will always be family members who will complain. You and your wife gave these kids a home. Pay no attention to the nay sayers.

All of what the other posters said is true. It should go in your favor that you want preteen and teenage girls!

Yes. I can't believe no one at the school hasn't called by now. Ish!! They really pick and choose who they call about.

You should realize that when you first get a foster placement, he/she/they will require ALOT of your time. There will be doctor and therapy visits, visits with bio parents, possible sibling visits (if it's a separated group). Plus, they'll have anxiety issues which will require you to give them 100% of your attention.