millie58

As long as you’re compliant, you should be fine.

Th4 bio mother having a lawyer should be a non issue. You and your hubby being able to keep the brothers together should make it a slam dunk. However, do not count on anything until you’re in the courtroom and the judge bangs his or her gavel.

Let your child think that. When said child gets old enough, do an ancestry test. I also thought I had more native ancestry but according to Ancestry, i am 50% European. But please do not go “I don’t see race”. When your non white children go out in the world, society will make sure they see race.

I totally agree with ADHD and ODD being overused. My youngest has anxiety. I learned from the predecessor of this site that a certain type of anxiety comes out as aggression and that certain meds can exacerbate it. I had to beg a “professional” to prescribe anti-anxiety meds which helped 100%. Professionals have to be on board with this and be willing to learn. Good luck!

Crap. Has Bm said who bio dad of fc2 might be? The problem is RU with bio dad or keeping siblings together. Pray. Although bio dad showing favoritism isn’t good. Pray.

FYI; you could have a bio child with behavioral issues. There is no way to know.

I fostered in New York through the county. One con of a private agency is they can make it harder to be certified. A government agency is supposed to be less stringent.

One thing to remember is your dad’s immediate family always knew he was adopted. Biological family members don’t always know. And when presented, they don’t welcome the adoptee. This happened to a friend of mine.

This. This was brought up in MAPP class. It’s possible these relatives didn’t know ahead of time about the kids. I feel for you. My first placement was sisters who were removed to be with siblings. I was devastated but it was the best thing for all involved.