millie58

The Birth Mom of my 2 youngest had a baby after she lost custody of the other kids and she was able to keep her. I think if there's an open case, CPS will be more likely to take the baby.

There are adoptable kids on websites, like adoptuskids and Tuesday's child. Not sure about Oregon but in NY, there are other agencies like the Salvation Army that does foster care/adoption.

This is tough. I say this because it's hard to keep siblings in touch as they get older. If you do take them, they need to be in trauma therapy. EMDR is one; there is another one but I'm having a senior moment. At 13, he definitely should have chores. See if the social worker will help you get them in trauma therapy. That should help with the behaviors. Then you can work on school, chores and other stuff. Good luck!

How long has he been in foster care? Are his siblings with him? The timeline varies. After TPR, my adoptions were under a year. But Birth Mom gave up her rights. If she starts working her plan, the judge "may" extend case. If she's been given 2 or 3 chances and has done nothing, there's a good chance TPR will happen quickly. Your DH may have to get a lawyer. Since he's the father, the child shouldn't still be in foster care.

Yes you could but her mother's rights would have to be terminated or she would have to sign her rights away. CPS should be called as that doesn't sound like a healthy environment for a child to be in.

If RU was stopped, TPR comes next. Did birth parent(s) not work case plan?

The adoption decree? You get that at court once the adoption is finalized.

This can happen even if the father is around. Read the story about Baby Victoria. Her father was about to be deployed and he thought he was signing rights just to Birth Mom, not for adoption. When he found out, he tried getting her back, got her back but in the end the adoptive parents ended up with the child.

I didn't realize there were trauma therapists until after I adopted and went this site. But my 2 youngest had so much trauma that I just started looking for trauma therapists. In NY, kids in foster care are put into therapy but it's talk therapy. The therapist for my 3rd oldest happened to utilize EMDR, which is a type of trauma therapy. For my youngest, I found an EMDR therapist who was quite knowledgeable about the brain and trauma. It was out of pocket but so worth the money. But to answer your question: ask questions. Good luck!