millie58

I will try to find her. She adopted a white child and adopted an embryo. She was on the predecessor to this site.

My 4 were adopted from foster care. Not only were they not diagnosed, not one was diagnosed with trauma. And my youngest saw a “child professional”. They were all diagnosed with ADD and ODD. My youngest has anxiety and I had to beg another professional to prescribe anti-anxiety meds.

Take an ancestry test. That should lead you to someone you share DNA with. You can go from there.

You should focus on the individual but if you think your black child and white child will have the same experiences, you have your head in the sand. Has your black child ever been profiled or followed in a store? I bet your white child hasn't. Pretending race doesn't matter hurts the child who isn't white.

If it's been ten months, definitely go higher. Go to the head of the agency and reach out to your political people. Threaten to go to the media. At 1 year, they take the bonding into consideration.

with adoption, the birth father has to give consent for the adoption. Maybe the niece is having second thoughts about relinquishing.

Try going to the to top person; also your government representative. I was told in MAPP class that all efforts are made for foster kids to be placed with family. You may have to play dirty. And document everything.

Write a letter to the head person in charge. It's possible guardianship was granted to give the kids some stability while everything was happening.

It could be that the foster parents' relatives will keep them in touch with the foster parents which is important if there's a strong bond. Your case should have been expedited for you to get them.