I hate visitation days!!!

I know I can vent here as many of us have been here before, but can I just tell you how much I hate visitation days. I have two foster daugters ages, 2 1/2 (will be 3 in July) and 13 months. I know this sounds silly, but the J, the older one, is a master at manipulation and thinks that saying she wants Mommy A is bothersome. I am so tempted say "so do I"! sometimes. I never tell her it's vistitation day until the actual day, but I swear she can tell and becomse more demanding and just basically awful. It takes a few days to get her back to normal, tho last week was a bit better. I have to be so consistent with her, I feel like everything is so routine oriented- it's like the military! Consequences for behavior (good and bad) are swift and quick. She is getting better, but, boy, did I underestimate the damage that can be done at such a young age. And the parents are still not in a residential treatment facility as was ordered by the court six weeks ago. The baby is a doll tho! Thanks for letting me vent!-Kate