I am sort of freaking out re: sealing!!!???

You need to talk with your Bishop and Stake President. Has he been sealed to his new wife? Has your sealing been broken? These kids are in the same situation as if they had been born to you, not in the covenant. My understanding is that they cannot be sealed to him and his new wife unless she legally adopts them. Talk to your bishop about how (and if it is even possible at this point) to get these kids sealed to someone, and what is the best option. It may have to wait... There are no great answers. All answers seem imperfect. Good thing there is One who is over everything and He will eventually fix it in a way that works. As a kind of side note - I have a friend who is a single mom. Her kids were never sealed. Unless she marries and her kids are adopted by new husband (not probable), her son will never be sealed to anyone in this life, and that is a source of sadness for her. But it WILL be taken care of eventually. Just live your life the best you can, and be a good mom, and the Lord WILL take care of you. Were just not always sure how. <<HUGS>>

I am guessing there were reasons the children couldn't be sealed to you and your ex at the time....IMO the children should be sealed to you and your ex but given circumstances now I am not sure what should happen. Obviously it sounds like you are not comfortable with the new wife being sealed to your children. This can only be done if you agree or if the children are legally adopted. If new wife legally adopts the children this means that you are no longer the mother to the children in the eyes of the law and will not have any say in what happens with your children. If you are not comfortable with this do not give your consent. If there are legal issues please see an attorney ASAP. I also know a family that had this issue and they waited until the children were old enough to decide who they wanted to be sealed to. (they were teenagers when the sealing occurred.)

We recently had our newly adopted daughter sealed to us. We got a leaflet of information about children to parent sealings and children can be sealed to one of their parents and a new partner if the other parent gives written permission. The children do not have to be adopted by the step parent. I think it's probably best to leave this until the children can decide themselves. It will be a blessing for them to have the sealing blessing but it's not the end of the world if they don't.

My ex and I were NOT married in the temple. He and I were both LDS but I wasn't at the time of the marriage. He was not a good member and committed adulty with another woman, divorced me, then they married each other right away as she was pregnant. Some years later they were married in the temple, and I received a letter from the Church asking for MY permission to my son (15yrs old) to be sealed to them..meaning never to be sealed to me..I thought on it, and realized that with all his faults, and hers, that they are indeed good people, and I saw no reason not to allow..So I signed the permission document, had to have it noterized, and sent it back to the Church. Since I was BIO MOM and we were married at his birth, they had to have my permission, even though son was living with them at the time.

I would say that if the children are living with your ex and his new wife that they should be sealed with them. Right now that's who they are being raised by full time. I imagine that's very painful but I'd reassure you that we don't know Heavenly Father's plans and I do believe if you remain righteous you'll see your children again. That's of course just my opinion. Sorry you are going through this!