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This was what I choose to call a semi-closed adoption. I know the first names of the adoptive parents, they know my name. The child was to be told he/she was adopted. I was willing to meet the child should the occasion arise, although I agreed at the time not to seek him/her out. They were provided with medical histories at the time, although after 20+ years that history has changes dramatically at least on my side.
I guess I have registered on this site, not so much because I want to force a reunion, but more because I want her (I know the child is a girl) to know she has not been forgotten and to know if she ever wants a relationship, I am willing. There is also quite a bit of medical history she might want to know about.
I know the decision I made to give her up at the time was the right one, for her and for myself, but that does not mean I for one second have not wished she was not a part of my life. I do hope she has had a good life up to now.
As to information; her adoptive parents' names are Alan and Judy. They also had an adopted son, I believe his name was Adam, 4 years old in 1989. The attorney handling the adoption for them was Rosenstock and Lowe out of Nassau County, NY. She was born on 05/20/1989 in Johnson City, New York. My maiden name is McManus. I lived in Endicott, NY, but have lived in Arizona for nearly 18 years so the trail is likely very cold if she has been looking for me.
If this message does get to my birth daughter, please understand that I am willing to make whatever contact you are comfortable with. My husband is aware that you exist. My other children, a daughter and son, and a step-son, your siblings, are not, but I have been considering telling them for some time. Do not hesitate on their account. You will be welcome.
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