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Hi everyone,
My husband and I have a three year old son and have just started our adoption journey. We just had our Adoption orientation last night!!! :happydance:
We are so excited and learning everything we can about adoption. Our 10 week MAPP classes don't start until September and we don't mind the wait. We'll be ready to start the Home study in December.
I do have a couple questions;
-We're hoping to adopt a sibling group of 2 or 3 children with at least one boy and one girl age range 3-11. We don't know what else we'd be able to handle as far as developmental issues and would like to learn more. Autism for instance, has such a wide range severity levels. I wanted to know where I can find out more information about Developmental needs so that we can get a better idea of what we can offer a child. I was told that the MAPP classes didn't really go into detail in this and just want some resources.
-We live out in the country and are moving into town around November - December, which is when we will be starting the home study. Is that okay? Is there a time limit of being in a home before you can start a home study?
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They didn't say anything about a physical during orientation. And they said that Florida state requires that you complete MAPP classes before starting the home study. I'm not sure if its different in other counties, we're in Marion, but she just said Florida State at the orientation, so I think its the same elsewhere. Let me know, I'm curious!
At first I was fine with our MAPP classes starting in September, now I'm getting impatient, lol.
It's so exciting and the orientation only builds on that!!
Good luck and let me know how your orientation goes !
We had our orientation and now are waiting for our MAPP classes to start. They don't start until September 31, and will be once a week for 10 weeks. Should be finished before Christmas.
Which is good for us because we'll be moved to our new home (in town and not in the country where we are now) before the home study starts :)
I'm starting to get anxious, so I'm keeping myself busy by reading books on connection parenting (thats what they teach in the MAPP classes) and "Raising the Hurt Child"
Can't wait for September!!!
Well we became foster parents back in late 2006 and we did the expidited MAPP classes (4 classes all day each Saturday for a month). They started our home study after the 1st class....and it was completed and we were licensed a month later. Not sure if it's changed thou and we are in Duval County also. And YES we did have to have a physical form filled out by our primary care doctor. It was pretty simple stuff....like did he feel we were psychologically ok and medically ok to take in children, etc...
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we had out orientation aug 17 and mapp classes started aug 24st. The first class you will recieve a huge folder of papers and information that will need to be finished by the next class...very scarey lol. I guess, all of that information is the "meat" of the homestudy. Also, in the 2nd class you will be finger printed.I will keep ya updated on the rest of the classes
Our MAPP classes started yesterday. There was a pretty good turnout, but the facilitator did say that we should expect to see the numbers dwindle as the classes go on. I am so nervous about all the things that we have to submit. I know there are other couples who have more money than we do, and I am concerned that our finances might put us behind someone else with a higher income. We are by no means poor, but we're not putting money away at the end of the month, either. We could comfortably support ourselves and one to two children. What made me nervous was a comment the facilitator made about wanting to see that there was money in potential family's savings accounts. I don't know how closely they look at that, but we're just not savers. I don't want that to prevent us from becoming loving parents. My dad never had extra money when I was growing up, but I always felt loved.
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I know in our case they wanted to see that we could cover all our bills without using any foster care stipend money...that was it. They didn't care about savings but savings is a good thing. We have an emergency fund setup just in case. With having a home it could come in handy...But then I've always been a saver myself.
We have to bring in a photocopy of ALL of our bills, including credit card bills, cell phone, electricity, car payments, mortgage, etc.. I completely understand the mortgage and insurance, but my credit card and cell phone bills? I feel like I'm being judged more on my finances than anything else. I'm still going bring everything and stick with it. I refuse to be one of those who quit because of all the paperwork and red tape. I'll do what I have to in order to give a child a forever home. It's a nice though that they want to be so thorough, but it's a pain in the butt!
Made it through our first two sessions, now onto the REAL paperwork, haha. I don't mind doing it. I'm just anxious to get our license. There is a sibling group that I would like to submit for. I get more excited every day.
On a side note, earlier this year, my husband wasn't 100% on board with adopting yet. We had gone through years of fertility treatment, and he was still mourning the idea of us not having our own. I took time, and slowly but surely, he came around. I made sure not to push him. He actually started bringing up the classes and things on his own. Now, he is totally involved, and it has brought us closer. Yesterday at class, we had to do some role playing about two girls being bounced from foster home to foster home and the original home that they came from. We also learned about some real situations that children who are placed in foster care had to deal with before they were removed from their homes. On the ride home I asked my husband if any of what we have been talking about in class has made him change his mind about adopting from foster care. His response (he is a man of few words) was, "Nope." :love: Given the fact that about 8 months ago he didn't want to talk about it, I think we've come a long way, and it's so nice to see him as on board as I am.
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