Considering adoption-advice please

You can't get this sort of advice on an anonymous forum. Sure, you'll get opinions, but abortion vs adoption is a hugely personal, private decision. Only you know the impact the two options will have on you. You need to speak with adults in your life, as well as counselors. If you can get to a planned parenthood, please do so. They won't pressure you, but will help you understand the options. I faced the same decision when I was 14 years old. never regretted what I chose to do. But as someone who'se watched this debate for 4 decades, I can assure you - no random person on a web page forum can make that call for you You don't mention your age or your state. Most states with adult consent require it to be a parent or guardian, not 'just any adult'

I'm in Maine, so I think she can consent for me, and I'm 17 right now. I'm not asking anyone to make the decision, but I want to know the impact the decision has had on people because I hear rumours but I know no one who has been through it themselves.

I'm sure there are those who do hate anyone who aborts, but there are also those who hate you if you give up your baby, if you are a single mom on welfare, if you have a partner of a different race, if you are gay, if you eat meat, if you wear fur, if you smoke, etc. etc. You cannot base this decision on whether or not people will hate you. And it's really no one's business anyway so it's not like you'd have to run around telling everyone you had an abortion if that is what you decided to do. Some people feel traumatized as a result of terminating a pregnancy, however I don't know any personally. The women I know who have terminated by and large felt relieved, even if there was some regret/sadness/sense of loss involved (and for some there were none of these things). It's a very personal decision and only you can decide what is best. It is impossible to ascertain how it will impact you until you've been through it, no matter if you have the baby or not. Right now you need ACCURATE information on all your options, and if you decide to terminate you need to make that decision soon. Planned Parenthood would be a good place to start.

Maine Requires parental notification and parents have to consent. ՕAllows minor to bypass parent by obtaining a court approval. Allows minor to obtain consent from other relatives as an alternative to parentsՒ consent. according to [url=http://parentingteens.about.com/od/teenpregfact/a/abortion_laws.htm]Abortion Laws for Teens by State[/url] I was in Maine when I was making that call as well. Peachy is right... people will hate you for a zillion reasons - not the reason to go one way or the other

I would never hate anyone who would have an abortion but I would love to see your baby have a chance at life...I feel like your baby is a miracle and meant to be. I guess when faced with such a life changing decision you have to decide for yourself which option would be easier to live with the rest of your life...living each year knowing you will never know your child that never had a chance at life...or living with knowing that you may have chosen adoption and know that though you may still not know that child that still that child is alive...you have to make that decision..no one can choose for you and what YOU can live with. In the end, its your choice and yours alone to make. I think deep down you already may know what your leaning towards, just trust yourself to do what is right for you. :wings: