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Well I was about 7 yrs. And my Dad was at work. My mom came to me with a book. Why was I adopted. She told me to read it and if i had any questions to talk to her about it. I freaked out and began to Cry till my dad got home. He talked to me about it. I understood alittle at the time. As the years went by I noticed more. I didnt look like any of my cousins. So I accepted it. Whats hard now is I only have 1 son and 2 daugheters. So I cant continue my bloodline any more. But I love my family. I just need more info about me.
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Knowing that we're separate from our (adoptive) family is a truly painful experience. And it sounds like your a-mom didn't broach the news with you in a very comforting way. The loss of bloodline and connection to one's past, the deep loneliness can be immense. And so I think the desire to know about one's origins is natural. Thanks for sharing your thoughts here - I've found that it's a very supportive bunch and hope that you will too.
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Nitewalker, Have you applied for all the info you are allowed from the state your adoption was finalized in? If you tell me the state I will post the link to give you the info or you can go up to Library, select Laws, Full laws by State, select the right state and then Acess to Adoption records (think that is the sequence). Have you asked your mom and dad for all the info they have or know or is that taboo? Kind regards,Dickons
Iam in Orange County Ca. I have received paper about my adoption from Social Services. But do to my Birthmothers Age they didnt give any more info. All I have was I was born At St. Jude Hospital in Fullerton. Moms Name Amy.. Fathers Name Tom. I also got a letter from my foster mother. Didnt say too much. I really need to Find more info..
Nitewalker, So I am assuming you are over 21? Did you sign a waiver and leave a letter with the state? Did you ask if either or both parents signed a waiver? Did you sign a waiver in case you have siblings? [url=http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/california-laws.html]California Adoption Laws[/url] Who May Access InformationCitation: Fam. Code 9203Identifying information is available to: [LIST][*]The adoptee who is age 21 or older[*]The birth parent of an adult adoptee[*]The adoptive parent of an adoptee who is under age 21[/LIST]Mutual Access to Identifying InformationCitation: Fam. Code ǧ 9201; 9203; 9205; 9206The adoptee who is 21 or older may request the release of the identity of his or her birth parents and their most current address shown in the records of the department or licensed adoption agency if the birth parent or parents have indicated consent to the disclosure in writing. The birth parent may request disclosure of the name and most current address of the adoptee if the adoptee is age 21 or older and has indicated in writing that he or she wishes his or her name and address to be disclosed. The adoptive parent of an adoptee under age 21 may request disclosure of the identity of a birth parent and the birth parent's most current address shown in the records if the department or licensed adoption agency finds that a medical necessity or other extraordinary circumstances justify the disclosure. If an adult adoptee and the birth parents have each filed a written consent with the department or licensed adoption agency, the department or agency may arrange for contact between those persons. Information about a birth sibling may be released to another sibling provided both are age 21 or older and have provided a written waiver. Photos or letters and other personal property may be released upon request if the adoptee is age 18 or older and other conditions have been met. Access to Original Birth CertificateCitation: Health & Safety Code ǧ 102705The original birth certificate is available only by order of the court. Where the Information Can Be Located[LIST][*]California Department of Social Services, Adoptions Support Unit[*]The licensed agency involved in the adoption[/LIST]Contact:California Department of Social ServicesAdoption Branch744 P Street, MS 19-31Sacramento, CA 95814(916) 322-3778[URL="http://www.childsworld.ca.gov/AdoptionFA_359.htm"]http://www.childsworld.ca.gov/AdoptionFA_359.htm[/URL] Have you searched the registry on this site and posted your search? Have you posted your search with ISRR.net? They will check their database for a match and keep your search on file but only contact you if they have potential matches. Have you asked your parents for any details? You also need to go into this knowing you may never get your answers and will have to find a way to live with it. Kind regards,Dickons
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Iam in Orange County Ca. I have received paper about my adoption from Social Services. But do to my Birthmothers Age they didnt give any more info. All I have was I was born At St. Jude Hospital in Fullerton. Moms Name Amy.. Fathers Name Tom. I also got a letter from my foster mother. Didnt say too much. I really need to Find more info..
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