thinking of adoption

No clue on what Your Baby will feel about you as a child or adult. Can you see him - well, he IS YOUR BABY - so of course you can see him. As much as and for as long as you want. He is yours. You should decide when you are ready to decide. "signing times" are the earliest you can sign - not when you must. Lots of ways to find adoptive parents - independently, ask around, check out websites wth families hoping to adopt. Or - call an agency. We adopted both ways. Do what feels right to YOU. I can only answer 100% for myself about the love. Well, maybe 150% or more about it. Yes, adoptive parents CAN really love a child (or children). 35 weeks ... I can't answer that question only you can. You can decide now - or wait until after he is born. And you can change your mind after he's born.

I just wanted to say I'm praying for you!!!!

Alexis - I wanted to send you an e-hug. I don't know your circumstances; only you will know whats right for you and your baby. Are you considering adoption because of a short term problem? Or are you at peace that this is wht you need to do? You'll need ot do some soul searching. You might want to go into the birth mother's subforum. You'll see a lot of stories on life post adoption As an adoptive mom, I can assure you no one has ever loved a girl more than I love my DD. Having her come out of my body wouldn't have made a difference There are thousands of people looking to adopt. I don't think finding a family will be the problem. Keep in mind, you have all the power (even if you're feeling helpless right now). Don't let an agency or potential adopters guilt or bully you into seeing or not seeing the baby, openness or adoption, or which particular family you select. Find out the laws in your state - how long to you have to change your mind. What are the benefits of signing early vs at birth. Its better to be informed before the emotional time post birth Best of luck to you

I don't know your situation either, but I'll be praying for you. I would suggest finding an unbiased counselor in your area that can go over with you your options and help you understand the consequences of choosing to parent and the consequences of adoption. Keep in mind that adoption is a forever commitment and you don't have to decide now. You can even take your baby home and decide after a few weeks. Don't let anyone force you into a decision you're not comfortable with. I would suggest like wcurry said that you take a look at the birth mother forums on this site. They may be able to answer some of your questions and refer you to a resource in your area.

You are at 35 weeks. He will be here in a month. You might want to wait until you see him. You might want to try parenting him and see if you can handle it. If you want to stay in touch, you need to make sure you do a legally open adoption. Right now, you can check out a few agencies -- just in case. If they pressure you too much -- walk away. Leave your mind clear to think things through. Remember...pregnancy and child birth are very hormonal times. Try to be as rational as you can. Think of you in 5, 10, 15 years. What will that Lexi want. I have one adopted child, and I can assure you an adopted parent can love your child as much as giving birth. BUT...you need to decide what is best for YOU and your son. In adoption, 3 groups of people should all be better off: birth mom, adoptive parents and the child. If you won't be better, then think again! Good luck in whatever you decide.

If you want to talk to a counselor or an agency about adoption, I would suggest sending a personal message to bromanchick on this forum. You can look her info up on the members list and send her a message. She has lots of information about good counselors and ethical agencies. Like the other said, you do not have to make a decision now. And your baby is yours and yours alone until you decide to sign the papers to terminate your rights. If you want an open adoption you should ask for an agreement and work with an agency or attorney that supports and advocates for open adoption. I am an adoptive mom in an open adoption. I have a great relationship with my son's birth mom and I love my child so much I would do anything and everything for him. There is no doubt that I could not and would not love him more if I had given birth to him But adoption is a forever choice and you should be very very sure before you decide, and your should feel 100% percent comfortable with the adoptive parents. Do not let anyone bully you or make you feel you owe anybody else your child. All the best for a healthy and happy delivery. And take time to hold and love your sweet baby no matter what you decide.

I agree with the others who have advised to get unbiased counseling ( a counselor NOT associated with an agency) to help you with what your options are and if you choose to make an adoption what you will have to deal with. Please know that there are many of us that would be happy to listen if you need someone to talk to. I will be keeping you in my thoughts, Jennie

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I am looking to adopt a baby boy . If you are looking for a loving family then contact us please. We would have no problems paying the legal fees for the adoption . Also if you are open to the option we could keep you updated on the baby such as letters and photos. And no your child would never feel like you didn't love him we would make sure of that. If you pick us.