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I reunited (just by e-mail so far) with my bmother last year, and in January she suggested that I get a copy of my original birth certificate. The social worker at the agency in Georgia that reunited us said as long as it was OK with my bmother, she would go ahead and request it from vital records. My bmother sent her an e-mail saying it was OK with her, I sent one requesting it, and they sent off the request in early February.
About 3 months later I hadn't heard anything, so I wrote to ask the social worker what was up. She said it sometimes takes longer than expected and just to be patient. I wrote again a few days ago because I still hadn't heard anything. She wrote back to say it was on hold and by the way, I would have to petition the court to get the OBC unsealed. I wrote back saying I was confused, because she told me she had everything she needed and had already ordered it. She then just said their relationship with vital records had changed since January, and I would have to petition the court.
This is so frustrating!! It's not like it contains any information I don't already have. My bmother told me exactly what was on it. But I still want a copy, and so does my bmother (and my mom). I was told I could get it, and then I'm told I can't. Another really frustrating thing is that this social worker had been so helpful in the past, and now she not only didn't tell me anything had changed until I had asked twice over a 6-month period, but is being so vague I can't tell what's going on!
Anyone have a similar experience or any insight or advice?
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Steven, I'm sorry you had to go through this. What I would do is to bring out the big guns...your mothers... Get your mom to sign an affadavit (letter) requesting the courts open your records and give you copies of everything including your OBC and have it notarized by a court official. Do the same with your natural mother and finally do the same and then submit all three documents with your petition to unseal your records. In Washington the petition was simply a form with specific questions that only needed handwritten answers. The two stumbling blocks I see is if your dad is not on board and still with you and if your father was on your OBC and is not with you because I would assume you would need all parties to agree. Also - get the petition and attachments copied and notarized so you have back up... I would do it just because. Kind regards,Dickons
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Thanks Dickons. I might just have to give that a try. My mom and dad are very supportive. Obviously my bmother wants me to be able to get the OBC. My bfather is still not particularly on board with the whole reunion thing (not really against it, but I haven't heard anything from him still), but he's not listed on the OBC.
Steven
Steven, If his name is not on the OBC then his help is not needed because he has no legal standing. I do think if you tried this and kept a set of notarized copies of what you filed with the petition and then if the judge denies the petition you might be able to appeal or get a lawyer to appeal for you pro-bono because the media loves this type of nonsense... D