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Does anyone have any suggestions for me...a little background. I took in a spru pllacement 2 weeks ago. She is 2 and is very aggressive with my son. Things have gotten progressively worse since she came and have now reached a crisis in my home. I caanot keep him safe. She attacks him right in front of me. He is having diarhhea and full blown tantrums now. I am at the end of my rope. Seriously, at the end of my rope. I called this morning to ask her to moved. I just called to follow up and the resource worker told me I signed an agreement saying I would give dyfs a few weeks to find a new placement for her. I can't wait a few weeks. I am in crisis. My home is in crisis. I explained that if things weren't in the crisis mode I would not have asked to have her moved. I don't want her moved. I need her moved. Is there anything I can do or say to move this along. I am soooo closing my home after this. I feel like I am about to have a nervous breakdown.
It's YOUR home. Tell them you are bringing her to the DYFS office in the morning (if you can wait that long). If you can't call, call the Hotline at 1-877-652-2873 and tell them she needs to be removed tonight.
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Sure - I will try to check back tonight. I tend to fall asleep early so hopefully they are in bed before 9:30.
I'm sorry to hear you're having such a difficult time, Eileen. You need to keep your son's well-being your first priority and that's the bottom line. I understand what it feels like to be at the end of your rope. We were there many times with our former foster daughter, but my kids are older and we had no safety risks. You need to keep your son safe! Hugs to you and hang in there!-Kate
Thanks, Kate.
I am in shock as to how hard this has been. My heart breaks for this little girl, and breaks two-fold for my little son.
I never thought I would be in a situation like this (I simply could not picture the chaos a little 2 year old could cause!) and I will absolutely not let my little family get into another situation like this, when this is all over.
I pray tomorrow brings a much better day for all of us, because today was jusy so icky.
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Hopefully you had a decent night's sleep. Call DYFS and tell them you're on your way with the little girl. There is nothing they can do to stop you - she is thier child, not yours, and it's their responsibility to find an appropriate placement for her.
Please let us know what happens. Hang in there. You have our support.
I totally understand feeling guilty- but don't! You do what needs to bedone to keep your family happy and safe!
Hi Eileen.
Just wanted to let you know that you've been in my thoughts. How was everything today? Was DYFS able to help? I hope so! - Kate
Thanks for all of your support!
DYFS found a new home for her and she left this morning. I am hoping she does better in her new home and that her new FPs can better meet her needs.
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That's good news. Take time for yourself and your little boy now. Maybe at some point you'll be ready to try again.
I just read all this. Oh brother! Of course this is my worst fear , for something like this to happen when I take in a second one.
BUT it is good to know I can turn to the awesome people of this message board for advice.
I am glad it all worked out. How is your son? Is he okay?
That little girl must have been through some hell to get that mad.
Thanks, Random.
My son is doing much better. All of the behaviors he was displaying when Princess N was here have disappeared. Two days after Princess left he told me, "Matty scared a "N". I was surpised he was able to verbalize this at 2 1/2 years old. In hindsight, I now understand why he was tantruming when I needed to leave his side to make dinner, wash dishes, take a shower...he was scared of N. He is now okay with occupying himself while I do household chores.
I pray for little N. She had many issues in our home and I hope she is doing better in her new home.
I agree with you- this forum is so great. I am so appreciative for the support and advice I get.