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This is my first post. I have had a duvet day today with my laptop & was shocked to discover at the ripe age of 46 that the relationship issues I am experiencing likely stem from being an adoptee. But as well as my relationship issues, I am having a serious problem with my job as in I desperately want to leave it. When rationally I know that it would be really daft to do so, it is well paid, I really like the people I work with etc. The only negative is that I am 'bored'. This definitely follows a pattern. 2 years of a job seems to be about all I can handle until I move on for one reason or another. And this moving on thing becomes like an obsession. I've been in current job 2.5 years and unhappy for the last 12 months, I really want to tell them to shove it but I know it would be a bit mad really. Today when I learned about the '7 core issues' thing I wondered if perhaps there was a link to my irrational job dissatisfaction?
:confused: Anyone's genuine opinion would be welcome. It's as though I NEED to change jobs frequently. Like an addiction to change. I am posting this for help because every day I go in I want to resign & I feel it is just a matter of time until I do and this could seriously muck up my life because it is a great job I have & I count my blessings on it all the time but can't help hating & resenting it at the same time. :grr:
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I've had 15 or so (not sure) jobs since college. I'm not adopted. Maybe your job dissatisfaction is not irrational. Maybe you'd rather have the satisfaction of helping people, maybe you'd prefer to work at home in quiet solitude (like I do) ... I wish you the best with finding something that satisfies you.
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It's hard to say if your need to change jobs due to boredom stems from adoption or not. Recent human resources literature does recognize that there are some people who prefer to move jobs or projects frequently - but they don't attribute it to adoption, just that there are some people who prefer variety. Furthermore, the book, "Future Shock" talks about how increasingly modern (western) society will become more and more transient, people will move around more and so it's possible that you're just part of that increasing workplace trend. On the other hand, I do also know that Nancy Verrier's book, "The Primal Wound", did say that some adoptees have what's known as low tolerance of frustration and/or attachment issues. Whatever the case, my recommendation is follow what your gut says regarding job satisfaction. And if you do think that you have adoption-related stuff to confront, find support as it can be pretty intense to grapple with on one's own.
So what have you all done about this? I have had so many jobs and most I have been fired from. I struggle with criticism and it has been very hard for me to even take constructive criticism as I feel like it is a personal attack. I thought it was always just me but I feel like a lot of it stems from adoption issues. HELP!
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I feel the same I always get frustrated with something at work, either my boss, my confidence, not being able to take on new things my new thing is that now I have the job I thought I wanted in terms of my career path I now think I want a completely different career. From Human Resources to working with animals. I can't afford to make this change till I safe up the money. I have just realised that I think I have surpressed issues with being adopted. I went through a stage of wanteing to find my birth parents when I was in my teens, I then decided not to due to the upset it was causing my family. I've not talked about my adoption since until now it has risen it's ugly head, I am now 31. I've also been having lot's of duvet days and researching things on the internet and kinda realised that a lot of how I've acted and felt all my life is common with adoptees. I've now been signed off work with a low mood and am waiting for a referral for counselling as I think I need to deal with my issues about being adopted. I was surprised to read so many people have the same self confidence issues and problems with relationships and bordom. I am now desperate to read Nancy Verrier's books to try and make sense of it all and sort out my very confused head.
Spiderman's bio-dad had ADHD. He went through seven jobs in two years. The longest lasted 4 months -- the shortest lasted 4 hours! (He went in the first day and quit at lunch!)After he got some counseling and realized that the boredom and anger issues with bosses were part of the ADHD he got better. He has been at the same place for two years now. Maybe it is a medical issue, not an adoption issue?
I'm 31/f and i've had since the age of 14 worked for more than 20 different companies. I also tend to move from one place to another as far as a solid residence is concerned. It has become an obsession with me as well, I think because I tend to hit walls with individuals who do not understand my emotional make up and somehow some way...I eventually become singled out and want to pack and move to something different or new. It always ends up the same way however and I wish I knew how to make a permanent change in this endless cycle...
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