Mrs. CCQ-disruption thread

I was going to agree with you and delete it but in the end I decided the lynch mob needed a clear example of what not to say. Then I decided in all honesty, the thread would not be anything more than more crap so I closed it.I'm just not in the mood for b.s. today I guess.You know what I just LOVE the most about her post? She just got licensed in MAY and has a normal 2 year old for a placement and will be doing an INFANT adoption.Seriously?????

i didn't even notice that! classic.

I like the closing of the thread. I read that post and just had to look at it and say "WT???". I'm glad you used it as an example because until you have a kid who is tearing your world apart, you can't understand. Bet you a dime she is one of those that thinks that just loving them will cure everything. God help her.

Ya, classic indeed.I may not agree with her decision either, but man...there's certainly no reason to be like that in response. I really hate the "what did you EXPECT in an older child placement???" judgements too. I expected hurt and anger but I never expected my 4 year old dd to tell me she hates me more than God and hoped I would blow up while she ran at me head first into my stomach, clawing at me. Yanno? There's expectations and then there's Holy Crap!, THIS is what they meant!I think the OP had no clue what she was in for and in all honesty...those @!)#(*)@(#%)@(#*% caseworkers should know better placing a TWICE disrupted sibling group with a brand spanking new foster parent fresh out of classes. (I think she took classes in Jan.) I feel for her, even if I think she's naive to think that a child hitting a dog with a stick is something "abnormal".Having said that though...did anyone mention on that thread that with some kids it's not the ACTION but the MOTIVATION? Big difference there. There just isn't any clear answer sometimes in these things. But the venom some spewed out...wow, got it crystal clear there, eh?

i almost posted something similar to that several times. i know. nothing REALLY prepares you to LIVE with what they say the kids may do. that is kind of what happened to us. dh and i were married a year, no kids, mid 20s...placed with an 8 and 9 year old who had been in the system for years. i am not kidding that cps lost track of how many placements my kids blew through. so i feel for her too. i thought i could handle it. i almost could not. somehow it all worked out.....but i am really no different than the OP...other than i ended up NOT disrupting. but the intention and desire to do so on my part were totally there.

I can only say, AAARGH!