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I was wondering how other Adoptees felt after getting to know their birth family. Do you make comparisons to the kind of upbringing of perhaps any other siblings raised by your birth parents. Wonder if your life would have been better or worse. What if your birth family turned out to be very wealthy and your adoptive family were fairly poor. How would that feel? Perhaps the raised sibling/s see you as a threat to their inheritence? Just thought I see how others felt about these things...
Its an interesting question. I myself have drawn comparisons as I think many adoptees do picture and compare how life would of been. I have been very fortunate in adoptive family as I haven't wanted for anything...private schools...uni etc etc. The assumption I had made is that my birthfamily would be poor.....I was surprised to find that they aren't and live comfortably. Don't know why I had thought of them a certain way but proved to be a bit wrong.
Although I feel lucky to have had a well off adoptive family...it doesn't take away the pain I feel over being adopted. But I have come to realise that comparing what would of been isn't going to get me anywhere either.
Hope some of that makes sense lol
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