Advertisements
with 2 small black children. He senses a woman checking them out and eventually gets brave enough to walk up and say, "Did you get them from America?"
He, a little shocked like he always is when strangers walk up and ask a question like that, says, "Yes" and they go their separate ways.
A few minutes later he gets the sense she's lingering in their aisle again and she gets brave enough again and approaches him and asks, "Can I have your phone number?"
He stumbles..."um...why?" and then he feels badly because the woman gets tears in her eyes. "Do you want to talk about adoption?" She looks relieved that he guesses it. "Can I just have your wife's name and number?" (Maybe I'm nicer she's thinking, ha ha)
"How about I take YOUR name and number?"
The woman is totally flustered, yes, that's a good idea, she's going to do that and she almost writes her info on a blank check and then realizes it's not a good idea.
So the man comes home and says, "Here, call her."
So uh. Do I call her? I wish he got her email address instead.
Like
Share
I think it is interesting that she asked if they werevfrom America. It sounds like a lot of people get asked if the kids are from Africa, but she did not. That made me think she is interested in domestic or foster care adoption. The other idea I had was wondering if she recognized one of the children. Even if she did not actually see the child before, she could recognize them from family resemblance or a picture or something...Probably a perfectly nice stranger looking for info, but I would agree on keeping your info private.
Advertisements
We actually get this question all the time, and he is white - well mostly.
Lil J is 1/4 Korean - but he has blonde hair, blue eyes and fair skin.
I guess either 1) people see him as "ethnic" or 2) people don't believe we could get a white kid from the US
We are also pressed sometime for a better explaination. I do like the "from a uterus" comment LOL
But, to answer your question - I would call her. You can block your number by dialing *67 before the phone number. If she seems weird, just don't call her back.
gigisam
How do I block my number?
Advertisements
Advertisements
:clap: on your adoption!OMG... YES! We are lily white and my daughter is obviously Hispanic. People ask me "Where did you get her?" Seriously... just like that. It goes like this:Them: "Where did you get her?"Me: "From the hospital!"T: "No, but I mean, where was she born?"M: "Newark."T: "REALLY??"M: "YES, REALLY!"T: "But where were her parents from?"M: "Well, I'm guessing if she was born in Newark, they must've BEEN from Newark!"I have had that conversation word-for-word at least 7 times and she's only 2.I love when I'm out with her alone (or with my blond haired, blue eyed son) and people aren't quite sure what to say, but feel the need to know about how we're connected. One time, a woman said "She's beautiful! She must have daddy's curls...?" (my hair is poker straight). I said "Yup, she sure does!" Now, my dh's hair IS curly, but she clearly thought my husband was Hispanic. Whatever. It was really none of her business.Glad you called this woman. I honestly have no idea what the right way would be to approach someone, myself. In fact, I ran into a family that was clearly either foster or adoptive (the mother way too pale and the children way too dark to be mixed) but I didn't say anything because they could've also been her stepchildren--ya know? But I'd have loved to share stories and experiences if they were foster or adoptive.
gigisam
Did you ever get a person who refuses to take no for an answer on that? Once at a restaurant this woman kept saying "Where is he from?" and we said "New Jersey" and she kept saying "No, but where is he from?" and "where is he from before that?" She really wanted the answer to be Africa.I told my husband the next time someone keeps pressing like that the answer is either "we're not sure, when the slave traders stole his ancestors they weren't kind enough to write down which country they stole them from" or, simply, "a uterus"
Advertisements
mamala
:clap: on your adoption!
OMG... YES! We are lily white and my daughter is obviously Hispanic. People ask me "Where did you get her?" Seriously... just like that. It goes like this:
Them: "Where did you get her?"
Me: "From the hospital!"
T: "No, but I mean, where was she born?"
M: "Newark."
T: "REALLY??"
M: "YES, REALLY!"
T: "But where were her parents from?"
M: "Well, I'm guessing if she was born in Newark, they must've BEEN from Newark!"
I have had that conversation word-for-word at least 7 times and she's only 2.
I love when I'm out with her alone (or with my blond haired, blue eyed son) and people aren't quite sure what to say, but feel the need to know about how we're connected. One time, a woman said "She's beautiful! She must have daddy's curls...?" (my hair is poker straight). I said "Yup, she sure does!" Now, my dh's hair IS curly, but she clearly thought my husband was Hispanic. Whatever. It was really none of her business.
Glad you called this woman. I honestly have no idea what the right way would be to approach someone, myself. In fact, I ran into a family that was clearly either foster or adoptive (the mother way too pale and the children way too dark to be mixed) but I didn't say anything because they could've also been her stepchildren--ya know? But I'd have loved to share stories and experiences if they were foster or adoptive.