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This is a bit of a tangent from the drama filled thread that Crick moved today (which I think was a good move btw).
The fact is, GAPS gets the most traffic. So people put threads there when they want everyone to weigh in. It's what adoptive parents do, birth parents do, adoptees do.
Now I "get" why that irritates adoptive parents, because they feel like birth parents (and maybe sometimes adoptees, idk) are rubbing their noses in certain topics.
But I know that birth parents have reached out to me and expressed disappointment at how quickly threads die on the birth parent boards. That adoptive parents really DON'T read there anymore, so to get any cross triad traffic, you have to go to them and not wait for them to come to you, you know?
I don't know what the resolution of this is, but if it's only appropriate for birth parents to start threads on the bp boards, conversations won't happen. (I know WE'RE not saying that, but it's being said, or at least implied).
I think that it may lead to even greater segregation, which none of us want.
Thoughts?
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I understand...I do. The fact is though we have a large number of aparents very pissed off that their support forum is often used for the ethics topics and that translates into "aparents need to fix this crap".
I believe the solution now is to have an "ethics" or "reform" forum and will talk to Sarah about her thoughts on that. I think we need a place that truly identifies a 3 way forum of participation and where things might be heated so enter at your own risk and leave the "Defenses" at the door. kwim?
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I haven't posted anywhere today although I've been reading a lot. I must say that the "discussions" are starting to sound a lot like the conversations I'm forced to refer at church (which is of course the last place they should.) I've thought about listing all the selfish reasons why I placed (v. the unselfish ones) but I've decided I don't want to go there! I think I'll go to bed instead!