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For the last two years we have spent our vacation with ds Firstmom they have went well and I would love to continue them. The only problem is that because of my husbands medical bills etc. we have just filed bankruptcy. There is no way we will be able to afford a trip this year, she has never paid me back for the hotel room at the last visit, and frankly I really don't expect her to. How do I tell her that we just can't afford it this year? We live very far away so its not like a day trip could do or even a meet in the middle.
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I'm not sure how much detail you want to go into, but so many people are struggling in this economy. Are you comfortable saying to her just what you said on here? Due to some unforeseen bills (up to you if you say medical or not) you just don't have the funds this year, and how important the visits are to you. . . you hope/plan to continue them, but you just cannot afford it this year. . . I'm sure she'll be disappointed (I'm sure that's a huge understatement, but I couldn't come up with a better word) but it's an obstacle so many people are facing right now. Also, I think it's very important that let her know that it's about the situation, and not about you not WANTING to continue the trips. . .I hope things get better for you soon.
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Danielle, just be honest. Let her know that you'd love to visit but the finances aren't there...
My son's bmom lives in Europe and we fully expected to spend a few weeks there this summer...Unfortunately, the flight alone would cost more than our sons' school tuition, and with cutbacks at my husband's job and a possible loss of employment for me, we have to be responsible.
She's disappointed, but it is what it is. I'm sure your son's bmom understand, especially if you tell her that you're disappointed as well.
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