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I accidently found out I was adopted when I was an early teenager. I am now 40 years old. I have been looking for the truth for over a year. In a day or 2, I will have nonidentifying information at my fingertips. I'm really scared. I have nobody to talk to. A couple of people only know what I know. They don't understand . Nobody does. Unless you have lived it, you don't understand. I feel like my whole life is a lie. Why did not my mom and dad have been honest with me. I told my brother I was adopted last Christmas Eve. He did not believe me and said he would prove me wrong, but I proved him right. I have the proof and it is on its way. My mom has a heart condition and I can't tell her I know the truth and have known for many many years. I was always treated differently as a child and even as an adult. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Am I wrong to want to know who I am?????????????????
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Kattie, you have every right to know who you are and to explore your feelings.All kinds of feelings will come to light. Some will be good, others will take some strength to overcome, and always there will be "pieces" of info that you will put together to try to make sense of what happened.Give yourself some courage and strength to fight the demons. They will come from everywhere.Adoption is a life long process and healing takes a long time.Being an adoptee does not make you "different" or an "outsider" ...nor does it provide a basis for abuse, it simply means your pathway was different...you are still an individual with goals, dreams, and ideas, and the ability to make a contribution to the lives of others. Now you are only attempting to put pieces of information together to find "truth."Support for what you are doing may come in many forms...some positive, other parts will be negative or based on disbelief. There will be ups and downs. Some days you will be able to take on the world, at other times you will give in and put things on hold. What matters is not how long it takes but how complete your story fits together. Never give up!I wish you the best.
Hello katie, i know how u feel im going through it right now i just recently found out a few days ago but it was through conversation i always had my doubts and im 21 now but ur not wrong for doing this and its hard to find out after so many years and it is scary to know that u will know everythin in just a matter of time. But you will be ok it was just a matter of time before the truth came out maybe your parents were scared to tell u and just remeber at the end of the day they raised us but its always good to know the truth good luck to you! =)
Just saw this. Of course it's fine for you to want to know. It's normal. I have 3 adopted cousins, everyone always knew, it was openly discussed, and it seemed totally OK. Family was thrilled that we'd been blessed by adoption. The reasoning in not telling is beyond me.I hope as you pursue this it brings you some peace. That may take some time, however! One of my cousins found bio info, met them, and was really in an emotional whirlwind for about a year. Totally understandable, challenging and interesting to be close to. Best to you.
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Getting over a trauma can be difficult for anyone no matter if your a Medical Doctor or a drug store cashier. The only advice that I would give is get out play some golf go to church learn or give some one a lesson meaning I was in church on sunday and after service there is usually coffee so while walking down to coffee hour two gentlmen asked a question know they were not insinuating that I go and talk to them but were trying to teach me a lesson like if Im capable of walking away from whatever they were selling where they might have been selling something that might have been harmful not only to me.
You are absoluetely NOT wrong to want to know who your real parents are. I do understand, it took me over 50 years to find my dad, and it's been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I guess the only thing I would caution you is this should you find them. You need to be emotionally ready to accept their decision of whether or not they will respond positively to you. But should you decide to seek them out, be prepared. It can change not only your life, but others as well. Be gentle, loving and sensitive in your search.
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