My heart goes out to you...

I hope you don't mind a PAP responding, but I just wanted to say that I admire that, even as tough as today was for you personally, you took the time to comfort others. I hope that you find some ease from your hurting. . .God Bless You, too. . .

Happy Holidays Rachie- it was tough, I got a little teary eyed when I was sent a framed holiday picture and the first picture with santa and that I couldn't be the one to take him to that, but you are very wonderful for taking the time to post that- it is definitely a world full of judgement but there is always help here!

I agree-I think abortion is a disgusting way of taking the easy way out. I'm glad we all made it through the holiday-at least this one. God bless, xoxoxo,

What's sad is that you don't see the...irony, there is a more harsh word but I won't use it, in this comment in this thread. You had me at your first post, which was sweetly intended; you lost me right there, sister.

I'm with you Hadley. If we don't want to be judged for our reproductive choices, we shouldn't judge others.

My apologies-I don't agree with murder :) Judge away!!

I gave my baby up for adoption three weeks ago. I am an atheist and I am very pro-choice, and choice is the operative word here. Even though I feel abortion is a valid choice I still decided to keep my baby for many reasons. I am 25 years old and had never been pregnant before. Keeping her was never an option in my mind. I considered abortion strongly, and I decided that with help from my mom, the father, the government, and in the end the adoptive parents, I could go through a pregnancy for me and the baby. Abortion is not necessarily more socially acceptable. You can have an abortion and not have to tell anyone. That's the big difference. When you are visibly pregnant, people ask you about it. And when I answered honestly, people were often terrible to me about my decision. I had to justify and defend myself constantly. No one was happy for me. They assumed I am a drug addict or the father took off (he did not). Many times in tears I told my mom I wished I'd had an abortion. At least that way I wouldn't be so publicly criticized and made to feel like a terrible person. If I had had an abortion, I wouldn't have to justify it to anyone but myself. I am happy I kept Elena, although my grief over my loss, of her and of a happy pregnancy, is horrible and I cry every day, but it makes me sad that people in general are so cruel to someone like me who is just doing the best I can for everyone, first and foremost my baby, who I love and miss with all of my heart.

Well, I'm sure glad you chose life for your child. I really don't think ending an innocent childs life is anywhere near justifyable. See, I don't really care what people think, or how cruel they were to me. Ending my childs life would never be an option. I would suck it up, and give life to an innocent child that never asked to be brought into this world. I'm glad my mom didn't have an abortion when she was pregnant with me. I'm glad we all have our own opinions.

Rachie3,You seem very mean.

Well, I guess you shouldn't judge me on my opinions and beliefs :) Because I'm not mean, and I do take offense to anything like this being posted on here. The original post had NOTHING to do about abortion, people mentioned it so I responded. Not my fault if you guys don't agree with me. I won't post anything nice anymore, no worries :)

Please remember to post respectfully. TOS which you all read and agreed to states: "No personal attacks: Personal attacks of any kind, public or private, will not be tolerated. Adoption.com chat rooms, message boards and journals are intended to be a positive, safe place for everyone. You are welcome to disagree with a member, but calling them names or flaming their character is not allowed. If you have a personal issue to discuss with a member, please take it off the boards and discuss it via PM."

In my opinion, extreme sarcasm is not nice.

Sorry, that's just how it seemed to me. Not an attack. She's very combative while not directly breaking any rules.

I'm not really sure how I'm combative when it was my original post and you continue to write negative things on it? Yeahh...exactly :)

I suggest the two of you put each other on your ignore lists. Be nice for all of us here actually.:) Click on User CP and then under Misc. click on Buddy/Ignore Lists. The rest should be easy to figure out. Closing the thread since it's not going to be a fruitful discussion no matter how many reminders it gets.