Love and Logic

I am no expert with this but according to how my SW explained it and the examples she gave, it is not about telling your child you love them. They need to know that you love them and will always be there for them through your actions. The logic part is having logical consequences for their actions and making them responsible for their actions. An example my SW gave was for her son (around 8yrs). He forgot to bring his spelling words home to study for the next day. She tried calling other moms for the list. One mom said "no-my son forgot too". When my SW said if she got the list she would call her back. The other mom said no. Why? Because the consequence of forgetting to bring the list home was that her child would have to miss recess to study the words. Losing recess meant something to him and thus he did not forget the list the next time. For teenagers, I think the big win here is to make them responsible for their actions without making you the bad guy. Instead of saying "You can use your ipod when you finish your homework" and they don't do it, You don't respond-"I said no ipod until homework is done". You respond-"I'm sorry you chose not to do your homework and can't listen to your ipod". This puts the responsibility on them.