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I will start out by saying this is for my little guy who is 3 years, 4 months. He has multiple medical issues, mostly minor just many. One of which is an absorption issue so he is on tube feedings which he drinks. As one can imagine he is thin (26.5lbs). The feedings probably give him 90-95% of his nutrition. He has been potty trained for peeing for months now, its the bowel movements. At first I thought because of the enzymes and that he has about 3-5 daily that he was not able to regulate it yet. But now he will wear underwear and ask for a diaper. He has only ever had 2 accidents. I think that if he can ask for a diaper then he is aware and should go on the potty. I have tried the inserts, changed the seat from a cushion to wood, even got a heated seat (incase it was too cold). I got him a small trainer potty he loves but still no bowel movements until he is wearing a diaper. I have done stickers, reward charts, read 3 different books but I am just done. Any suggestions? Thanks.
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Honestly I haven't been brave enough not to give the diapers. He will cry, hold his tummy and tell me it hurts. If I put him on the potty he will just sit there and cry. That then aggravates his respiratory issues. And he still wont go. By the time I pull him, put him in a diaper and give a treatment he has gone. We are going back to the children's hospital in 10 days I will ask a bit more thoroughly there if there is a medical reason or if this is typical behaviour for his medical condition. Its just so frustrating because he is the perfect child in all other areas. I guess that;s why I have been giving him time but ohh how I wish he would go.
:eyebrows: I did the same thing when I was a child... and I know that it is bribery plain and simple but the only way my mom got my to go in the potty was to tell me if I would starting pooping in the potty I could have this red wagon that I wanted. And it worked... I got the red wagon and she got rid of diapers! If you're not opposed to bribing him.....good luck!
Yes I have tried the bribes. He loves Great Wolf Lodge and knows that when he does start going on the potty we will go back. We have gone numerous times before. He has the brochure, he got new swim shoes and bathing suit for peeing on the potty. But its the other. This morning he asked for a diaper and I did not give it to him. I told him they were only for bedtime. We'll see how it goes!
We called my oldest son "buns of steel" because he went through that too. I tried everything, even sitting in the bathroom for hours, reading books and singing songs hoping he would go. What finally worked, was his birthday was coming. Everytime it was time for a change I would offer him the choice of big boy pants or a diaper. If he chose a diaper I would put it on very, very slowly. While I did this I would tell anyone in the room. (the baby, the dog, the teddy bear, Elmo on TV, dh, etc) that when S turned three he would not wear diapers because he would only go on the potty. I would just state it as a fact to them. (I think only the dog ever listened, LOL) I never said it to S. Just to everyone and everything else. Meanwhile we were planning the party. We were talking about which relatives were coming and which friends. We were talking about the food we would serve. We were talking about the cake and what would be on it. We did a construction cake so we were experiementing. Using crushed oreos for piles of dirt, upside down snack size hershey bars for the road, orange all sorts candie's on tooth picks for signs, candy corn as cones, tootsie rolls as a piles of logs, etc. We had purchased a set of hot wheels construction vehicles and were making drawings of where everyhing would go on the cake. He was very excited. We marked off days on a calandar and when we got to Monday of the week of the party, he walked into the bathroom and went in the potty. Of course we did the dance, called daddy at work, called grandma, told the dog, the baby, the teddy bear and Elmo, etc. LOL After that he hardly had any accidents ever. He also never asked for a diaper again.
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Where were you when I needed that Lorraine! lol. My DS is in daycare, and what FINALLY worked for him was seeing all of his little friends move up into the "big boy" room, and he was left behind with the "babies." (We also tried the bribes...no luck there. BOO!) Boys, for some reason, seem to have a harder time having a bowel movement on the toilet.
My son did this for a long time (asked for a diaper to poop). Finally, I was out of diapers and said that's it. He was over 3 1/2 at that point and did start going on the potty. It is not a fight you are going to win until he is ready to do it. Just be grateful he is going in the diaper and not in his pants!
Got back from childen's hospital and I am finally all out of excuses. They know of no reason why he will not go so I guess I'm back to waiting. He has been sleeping with me but I guess I will now make it conditional on whether or not he goes on the potty. But I'm still torn because I keep hearing that if you make it a big deal it takes even longer. He is an amazing child in every other way so perhaps I should just take it as it comes? Can you tell I'm conflicted?
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