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i was at a bar with a second cousin at 3 in the morning (i was a cook at a restaurant in manhattan), and she decided that that was a good time to tell me that i was adopted.
i am now about to turn 33 and i still dont really have any info. i was born in new milford, ct. adopted in bronx family court. my uncle who was an attorney and present in court, says he cannot remember my birthmothers name. my parents say they do not remember anything either, and no one in my family has any sort of paper work. the lawyer who did the paperwork has since passed away (my uncles friend), and his wife did not have his records.
my next step is petitioning the family court to have my records released to me on medical grounds, i had synovial cell sarcoma in my knee/leg. along with the petition, i am including a letter from myself and from my oncologist. i am not very hopful that this method will work, but it seems that it should be a good enough reason. and i guess i will just have to take it from there.
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Chef30, I am very sorry you had to find out this way. It must be tough. I looked up this relatively rare cancer and it is gene/chromosome related. Please ensure your oncologist states the info needs to go to them so that YOU can ensure your family has this information to ensure their health and that YOU need family health history to protect your future health. I was diagnosed with a rare disease and my doctors wanted info to go both ways simply for the reasons stated above. The courts opened my records in Washington - I wish the same results for you. Stick around and get to know us and let us know how the petition goes. Kind regards,Dickons
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I don't know what type of letter you would actually need. Perhaps call the courts? They may only need to write a note on their prescription pad that states rare disease, is genetic, family health history should be transfered both ways? I did not have anything from the doctors but I was sick so mom petitioned the courts on my behalf and wrote what the doctors said. You can try without the letter/note but I think it will have more clout. I just don't know if it has to be a formal letter or just a note. Kind regards,Dickons
well. i sent in my petition with a letter from myself and one from my surgeon two weeks ago. this morning i came into work to find an envelope from the family court in my mailbox. its like 4 to 5 pages in there, so i am thinking that it is something. if it was just a "sorry cant help you response", that would be a one sheet of paper kind of thing.
i am pretty nervous. i am going to go to sneak out of work a little later in the morning, to open it somewhere outside of work.
Chef30
well. i sent in my petition with a letter from myself and one from my surgeon two weeks ago. this morning i came into work to find an envelope from the family court in my mailbox. its like 4 to 5 pages in there, so i am thinking that it is something. if it was just a "sorry cant help you response", that would be a one sheet of paper kind of thing.
i am pretty nervous. i am going to go to sneak out of work a little later in the morning, to open it somewhere outside of work.
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very dissapointing.
it basically said nothing. my name was on the top of the letter, but it was adressed to Mr. Samet, which is not my name. it said that they were unable to comply because they were unable to locate any records pertaining to me. they then suggested i contact the surrogates court or the adoption registry.
my family told me that it was done through bronx family court. i really hope they are not lying, and i really want to believe them. but this is just another thing that seems suspicious.
You're in a difficult position. That letter is remarkable... I would send it back with a note saying Mr. Samet isn't you, and to please pull your records. Sometimes you have to keep bugging for information. It sounds like the Bronx Family Court is suffering from nonlinear waterfowl syndrome... they need to get their ducks in a row.Does your family understand how important this search is to you? It seems remarkably unlikely that there would be no documentation. If you're suspicious, maybe you could share that with them. Why would they hide this information from you? You might be able to offer reassurance to them, so they don't feel threatened by the search.Good luck.-T
This sounds like a tough situation.I'm a student doing a major work at school on the effects that finding out about an adoption has on a person identity over various life stages.I would greatly appreciate if you would be able to assist me? If you are willing to participate in an interview please contact me: SMckeown.pip@hotmail.com