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Okay, so this may sound strange. I recently started a search for my biological mother. I received info this week about her. She wants contact. She has a son who has terminal cancer. Her entire family is completely excited to meet me. My concern is that she may be looking for some type of donor for her son to prolong his life. Is this a valid concern? Or am I just being paranoid? I really would like to meet all of them, but I don't want to feel like I'm getting used in the process. Any ideas/advice?
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Also an adoptee, and I'd say to you (gently) that you may be a little paranoid. Your concern may be valid, but most likely, you've just found them at an awkward time. Maybe it's best to look at it from the perspective that you're in time to meet your half brother, if you wish. Also, reunion is a very intense time. Very. Plus, this family is dealing with a terminal illness. That will make things even more emotional. Are you ready to cut them some slack, and realize that this reunion time may not be all about reunion? Sounds strange now, but wait til the rollercoaster gets cranked up. Toss logic out the door!Good luck.
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Thanks - Since I posted this I have been doing alot of thinking, and have talked to a cousin-in-law that was adopted. He basically told me the same thing! :) Think I'm just terrified now that the actual even of communication is closer and I'm just freaking out a little. It's hard not to. :) Thank you for the advice!
Good advice here Wifey. Besides, the vast majority of cancers can't be helped by a donation of any kind, so I really doubt you have to worry about that. If it does come up, like Peachy said, you don't have to pursue it. Since you searched for your bmother, I'm guessing you want contact with her, so I say go for it, and good luck!