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Our 13 year old as has been having many problems for a long time and we just had to sign him in the hospital for the third time. He started in a rage for no reason in our vehicle on sunday. He started hitting his brothers, throwing things, threatening to kill himself and his brothers girlfriend. We actually had to pull over in a parking lot and make him get out and walk home because it was no longer safe for any of us with him in the vehicle. We called crisis who told us to take him to the local emergency room because they had a worker there. We spent four and a half hours there before we could take him to the hospital we wanted him to go to. Last time he was hospitalized they only kept him three days which wasn't long enough. How do we convince them that he needs to be hospitalized longer? He is a master manipulater and loves being in the hospital because then it is all about him and our plans and his brothers plans end up getting ruined because of it. Three days is easy for him to behave and say all the right things he has even had three good days in a row at home. We have a family session tomorrow which will be the third day and my husband thinks they are going to do what the last hospital did and send him home. I love him but he needs serious help right now. we think his medicine is causing him to escalate his behaviors.(It was changed in Dec. and this is his second hospitalization since then) How do we get someone to listen and help us?
(((hugs)))
can you video a rage and use that as proof? or does he stop if you try that? are there any counselors that have worked with him that witnessed the rage and can provide details? maybe hearing it from other professionals, rather than family will help?
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Sometimes you can get them to do an inpatient psychiatric evaluation that can buy you time. While psych hospitals often discharge fairly quickly(like when insurance runs out) there are long term residential treatment programs that could be options.
They actually kept him in for 12 days but didnt listen to us about the medicine. They seemed to be doing good for awhile. the first family meeting went really well and he did tell us some things that were bothering him. The day he was discharged though they shut us down told us we were not to talk about the past anymore and start over. He lasted two days at home and then because he couldnt find his dress pants for church he flipped out and threatened to stab his brother to death while he was holding a pen making stabbing motions. When we took him to emergency room he ran away. We had to call the police but he came home before they found him. While crisis worker was here he started to mescalate screaming throwing threatening to run away to the point she called police to escort him to er for medical clearance( police officer convinced him to go with us but then he wouldnt get out at er so crisis worker had to get hospital staff to get him in) and arranged for transport to the hospital he was going to which is two hours away. He is set to come home tomorrow after a 9 day stay. The doctor didnt want to but finally agreed to take him off the medicine we wanted him off of. We are not sure what to expect but we did at least have two good visits this weekend where he actually smile, played a game with his brother and didnt get upset because he lost, and even gave us all hugs. We realize there is still along road ahead of us but hopefully it wont be quite so bumpy.