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Hi all, I've popped in and out of this forum a few times and haven't noticed anyone who is still waiting to be a mother for the first time. My husband and I started this process when I was 38 and here I am at 41 still waiting, having just been through the ringer with a failed adoption two weeks ago. I'm so discouraged!!!
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No, you are hardly the only one here!I am 42, single, never married, no kids, have a dog. Started thinking about adopting when I was around 35, started getting my financial life straight, took steps toward kicking my career up a few notches....things that would make life better, in other words.Recently certified for foster/adopt. Got 1 call thus far, but they found family...hoping to have another call soon!
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At 43/45, we're still waiting to adopt our 1st. Both of us work, and we've been doing some rearranging of furniture to move the computer room upstairs next to the nursery and a guest room in the room previously known as the computer room.
We've designated the nursery, but it just feels strange to do any setting up for a baby without knowing when they'll arrive. Right now, it's still a guest room. How is everyone else dealing with this?
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How are the older waiting parents doing today?
I had a few reach outs for profiles to consider, but we have not had the right match yet. We are still working with our foster care system where I live. We finished homestudy update in June 2011 but had to put everything on hold in September 2011 until January 2012. So it really feels like we have only been waiting since Jan. 4. Not long and when I consider that we've had 8 profiles suggested it's going pretty fast.
Anyone matched or close?
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I am so sorry to hear that. I had two failed adoptions, and they felt as bad or worse as miscarriages.
I have adopted and given birth to one, but my path to parenthood was convoluted and filled with disappointment.
My dream all of my life has been to have a large family. I still want a few more kids.
I know the giant, decorated empty room feeling. It's sad.
Are you seeking to adopt a US infant from a young mother? What types of adoption are you open to?
I really hope and pray that by the end of the year you have a child.
Please let me know what you want, what age and from where. Perhaps we can brain storm together!
Hugs!
Denise
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Hi Miss.M.!
We are now at the three-year waiting mark and are in the midst of our third failed match. 42 years old and counting...
Good luck finding your match!
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Hello ladies and gentlemen,
My husband and I are also over 40 years of age (44/47). We really feel like this is the best time for us to be doing this. We are in the process of having our homestudy updated and researching information about affordable agencies/attorney's. After having talked to others about matching, the adoption will take place, it just may take some time.