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Long story short, please no hate messages or anything. My husband came from bad experiences growning up. He used to do illegal drugs, drink alcholol and get him self drunk, he end up living on streets for while. He was in jail for three years for molesting a child 5 year old, he regreted, turn him self in, he was in treatment programs, change his life around. He became born again christian, follow christ etc, he never convicted any more after that. It was a very minor conviction. Anyway I met him later on and my family know about his past, but since we are christian, we all forgave him. My husband and I are happily married, he the best person I ever been around, no one is like my husband, the most kind loving man ever, we have a daughter who now a year old, she is the joy of our lives. Like I said he only did it once, never molested any child ever. I want to know if it possible we can be able to adopt a child? My tubed is tied my doctor said if I get pregnant again, I have high chances have problems like I had with our first child. That why my tubed tied. Now I wish I could have another child, but I know I can't without risking complicating, pre term etc. Any suggestions? Also if there adoption agencies that can help let us know too. My husband a good loving father to our child.:(
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I really doubt that your husband will be allowed to adopt a child, since he was convicted of child molestation. I fail to see how being convicted of molesting a 5-year-old child can possibly be considered a "very minor conviction."
I'm glad he turned his life around...but there still are consequences to our actions, even if they happened years before and even if we amend our lives.
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I would have thought that CPS would be concerned about your birth child actually, I am not saying that people cannot turn around their lives but they do tend to get involved in families where there is a convicted offender who has children or starts dating someone who has them.
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Due to the nature of his crime, he would not be allowed to foster or adopt in our area, nor would he be allowed to work with children in any capacity.
How long ago did this crime occur?
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My understanding is even if a person has been accused and not convicted of child abuse they will be denied the opportunity to adopt. May not sound fair however, their concern is the child and if there is any doubt what so ever they will not take the risk. No professional will consider any child abuse minor.
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Molestation would automatically eliminate him as being a viable foster or adoptive parent. Molestation is never "a minor crime".
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Molesting a child is not a minor conviction. People who do that are sick and very rarely become fully healed in my opinion. He may never molest a child again but I'm sure it is a struggle to overcome and the risk to adoption agencies or the state is too large to chance it.
I do truly hope that he's changed and that he has turned his life around but I don't think adoption will work for your family.
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It was a very minor conviction.
No molestation is EVER a minor crime. Especially to the victim. You husband may very well be a very kind and loving man, but he still did the unthinkable to a child. A defenseless, vulnerable child. No decent, ethical agency would ever put a child in harm's way.
I do believe that people can be healed with LOTS of therapy. Even still, I would be very hesitant having that individual around any children. From my perspective, my trust for the individual is trumped by the safety of a vulnerable child.
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