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Hi guys,As some of you may remember (I'm a very infrequent poster), I was going to school online with the goal of becoming a juvenile probation officer. Well, that failed because the school either raised their rates, or the federal government decided I made too much money...suddenly my financial aid wasn't enough, even with subsidized and unsubsidized federal loans. So, they tried charging me tuition and stuff. I can't even afford 50 dollars a month right now (no way to cover their 2k fee). So, my dream is dead or very dormant. With the job market the way it is, I'm lucky to have my 30hr/wk job at Radio Shack. I don't see getting anything better. I've been dreaming of being an adoptive father for at least ten-fifteen years (Before that, I also thought I might have a romantic future). I know this is long, but I had to say it to someone who might understand the dream of adopting. Here's the situation:I have a 13k/yr job (maybe fifteen in a good year).10k in student loans/ 2k in school tuition that I can't pay.With my current bills/gas/food, I barely cover everything. I'm reduced to eating staples (rice, grits, bread, pb & j) for most of the month. I definitely can't afford a kid right now. My only hope for financial stability is to try for management and hope for the best. To make that happen, I have to sell more than I am currently and sell more attachments to the phones and various big-ticket items. Even if I manage those things, my dream might still be dead. A manager has to work about fifty/hrs a week, minimum. How does a prospective adoptive single father justify his dream of parenthood to the cws and sws? I know the time demands on parents from single parents is a lot. Is my dream dead? Can I work that many hours and still be approved for adopting as a single man? (Everything else being acceptable, of course)Thanks for listening,DavidPSS: I'm not suicidal, just severely scared, depressed, and tired of trying several different career and school choices and coming up short. I'm a good person who feels he could be a good or great dad to some little tyke.
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Hey David,
You bring up some long buried memories. When I was 23, I was working p/t at a video store. i had flunked out of college. I was living in a 10x40 trailer with my DH. We lived on morton pot pies, and pasta. We had no free money. In the middle of that, we found out we couldn't have kids.
I knew we would never be approved for adoption. Not enough money, no insurance, etc. I felt super defeated.
I very much remember that feeling. There's no quick "feel good"... hearing "it'll happen when the time is right" is just annoying.
hang in there. once you find your wait out of your current situation, things will fall into place.
*hugs*
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David - I'm sorry school isn't working out for you right now. I'm really shocked and dismayed honestly that 13k a year is TOO MUCH money to qualify for tuition help.
Is there any way at all you can borrow the $2k from friends and family? Apply for scholarships or grants? Continuing your education is the best route to your dreams of being in the job you want and for a future family.
If that's not possible, I'd keep working but look for a better paying job while holding on to hope for "some day". You might be delayed, but not finished, imo. Hang in there.
I got the Pell and Hope grants, student loans, but still Kaplan says that I owe 2k. I was going to school for over 2 years and didn't need to spend a dime out of pocket. Last year, they sent me a promissory note for 1k or so. I told them I couldn't afford that. I managed to get student assistance loan to pay that, but had to take a Leave of Absence (from school) for the Christmas season because my hours were nuts. (70 plus, not counting travel). In February, when I was ready to return to school, I was hit with the 2k. I'm getting two collection calls a day from the school. It's very frustrating.My friends and family don't have the money. I was kicked out of Kaplan for nonpayment in March. It's very frustrating. Thanks for the responses, it's appreciated.David
Education is important. But I am going to recommend something slightly different. In the county and state that you live in, 1) ask them if there is any education assistance and if they say they dont know ask them if they can refer you to someone who may know more (get their name and use it with the next person) and keep asking until you get someone who may know something and help you 2) go to the probation department and ask them if there is a work program/internship or something you can do that will get your foot in the door. You would want to talk with a department head, show them you have the gumption to do what it takes to make this dream a realtity. If they do, it wont be high paying, but it may introduce you to the right people. Ask them also if they know of any education assistance.
Good luck. Shoot I didnt realiz e this post was a few months old until now. Hopefully you will see it.