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Next weekend is it - the time when we finally meet (bmother and I). I'm thrilled and terrified at the same time. I bet she is, too. I can't stop thinking about it and having dreams about it. I will be glad when we meet and can move on with our relationship without this anxiousness hanging over our heads. I have high hopes that we will have a great time, but I'm trying to be realistic that it might be a little awkward. Advice?? I'm afraid I'm not going to sleep for the next 8 nights!
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Just enjoy it. It's still one of my favorite memories. Just remember that you have moments of silence with the family you know, as well as your friends. If it happens with your bmom, don't worry so much about it. I know I found mine staring at me a lot, and I'm sure I was doing the same. I'd tell you to relax, but you won't be able to. My bmom and I talked about how excited/nervous we were and it got to be a joke between us. If you have similar senses of humor, that may take a bit of the edge off.Since you don't look alike, you may be surprised at how many mannerisms you share. I sit like my bmom, we both do this same gesture with out hands, and a few other things. That made me feel a bit better since we don't resemble each other much.Good luck! I'm very excited for you.
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Talk about the present, not the past. Wait until you get into the deep trauma that you both felt all these years. Keep it light and plesant. Focus on the now. You don't want her to associate you with the pain she felt all those years ago.
This comes from years of experience as a search angel. Wait a few visits before you talk about your "genetic bewilderment."
Good luck, remember to breath and enjoy yourself :D . It may be worth your while jotting down notes for yourself for things to talk about.
I remember when my son and I first met. He was fascinated by my hands as they are small and slim - his are long and slim. We both share similar facial expressions and move our hands in the same way.
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