What questions to ask?

I like the idea of having an "idea" in your head of what to say. But I really don't think you can plan out life to the degree of an entire conversation. What makes life so special is the spontaneity. It just happens! We can't plan for every action and reaction. If this is going to be the first contact with your birth mother, I would keep the conversation lighter. She is going to have questions too. As a bmom, I wanted to know sooooo much about my son when he contacted me. 26 years later, for me, it was still about my boys happiness and safety. My first phone contact with my son was 2 hours long. It just happened. There was much talking over each other due to the excitement. We had agreed in the first communication that was a letter, that there were many questions that would be best asked in person. I think there are many more questions for him to ask me, be he didn't just start quizzing me. You don't want either of you to be on information overload. Some of what was said was said from just pure excitement. The conversation just happened. Good luck and keep us posted.