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My daughter was adopted from Guatemala and I am usually asking questions over in that forum but thought this would be the best place for my question today.A little background...My daughter came home at 8 months old and is now 4 and a half. We do not have contact with her birth mom but hope to some day.We talk very candidly with her about how she grew in her "mama x's" tummy and we show her pictures, one of which is hanging in her room. She is at that age where she is very interested in pregnant women and where babies come from and she talks very openly about her "mama x" to family members.My sister who is a birth-mom just found and made contact with her son (22 years old) this past weekend. We are all very excited and happy for her. He is coming to visit this Saturday and we are going to have a big family get together.So my questions is... Would this be a good time to further our conversations about adoption and reunions or should I wait until she starts asking more questions?She has never brought up questions about her adoption before.Thank you for any help or suggestions.
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I think it would be a perfect time to casually bring it up just a bit, as your daughter will see that you understand that an adoptee has two families and sometimes wants to know the first one and that is also good. Deals with the unspoken loyalty issues we feel. Also a good time to insert sometimes reunions don't happen for many different reasons, but that everything worked this time. Plus they are adults so she will recognise it may or may not happen until she is all grown up. Kind regards,Dickons
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